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writes:Hello and thanks in advance for your help :)So I was introduced to a guy through a mutual friend. We met for the first time 2 night ago.I wasn't sure if he was really interested or if he was doing it for our mutual friend you know? We hung out that night for a while-we seemed to get along ok he was pretty shy.Now the next night my girls and I were going out again so I told him to drop by if he's free. Some time after that I got drunk, the free drinks just kept coming. The next thing I know I found myself calling him to come pick me up cause I was scared. He was nice enough to pick me up and bring me to my place. Now that Im sober I think I might have left a bad impression and scared him off since I was such a mess last night and a bit clingy too (no idea why I did that-as if we were already an item or something). Plus I kinda feel like I ruined his night out when I barely even know him. He's pretty conservative too. I really regret it, embarrassed and now scared to even text him a thank you text. What do you guys think? Please help! Im dying from regret and embarrassment here and shame in the fact that I was so drunk :( ps. Im also starting to think that its a one sided thing like maybe he's not interested and Im just reading too much into it. Just because he was friendly doesn't mean he has an interest you know? :(
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (2 February 2015):
Don't you think it is a bit early to consider if this has been one sided? It would definitely be one sided on your part because you over did it. Alcohol has a way of bringing out really one sided actions :)
Perhaps you scared him off or not, but you should accept responsibility of your actions and at least thank the guy for him completely going out of his way for you. You did not have a problem to call him when you are drunk so why feel bad to call him to thank him, for making sure you got home safe and sound, and that he did not take advantage of the situation.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (31 January 2015):
 Shoot him a text apologizing for your behavior. Just be honest and tell him you felt safe knowing HE would get you home, and then THANK him for doing so. Do go into TOO much explaining or apologizing, but DO thank him and DO apologize for taking him for granted to pick you up.
After that LEAVE him be. IF he is still interested HE will contact you.
And.... NEXT time... even if the drinks are free, KNOW your limit and ALWAYS be able to get home without having to call a VIRTUAL stranger for a ride. WHAT if he wasn't a good guy?
If it scared him off, well then LESSON learned. And THEN he isn't a good match for you. No one is perfect. Not you, not him.
Chill, honey.
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