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writes:At the weekend i went away on holiday with my girlfriend and her family. I went out clubbing with her and her brothers. When we got back to the hotel it all got a bit strange. waiting in the lobby for her brothers to get back (making sure they made it back ok)... my girlfriend went to her parents room, Her mum said i needed to take her to bed as she was very drunk. When we got to our room she wouldn't get in the bed and burst into tears... I tryed to get her to move into the bed but she wouldn't... she then started to get agressive towards me and said things that made me very upset... an example was she said i shouldn't talk about my mum... I only talk about her a few times in the month but i dont think thats to much (she died 2 years ago). Then she said i don't want to go travelling with you and walked out of the room. I went looking for her and she was in her parents room again. So i just when back to our room and slept there. She said some nasty things to her parents and they have already forgiven her. this isn't the first time she's been like this toward me when she has been drunk. Im trying my hardest to forgive and forget as she is very sorry for what she said... im just finding it very hard. what should i do?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Talk. Sometimes people are being truthful when they are drunk. Ask her if it trully bugs her that you talk about your mom. Did she hate your mom when she was living? Did she have conflicts with her? Or do you talk about your mom during inappropriate times, like during sex, etc.? Just wondering....btw, sorry for your loss.
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reader, xmeganx  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 hmm well first I'd say put it down to her being drunk and move on... BUT reading on no, i dont think you should have to but up with that. Especially telling you to stop talking about your mum. Thats so not on. Have you talked to her about when shes sober? I'd tell her that she really upset you, and if it happens again its over. She cant just use drunkenness as an excuse. and if she cant handle drink, then she shouldnt be drinking
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Some people strongly believe that you see the truth when a person is drunk,
If you cant put it behind you then you cant move on together, if she verbally abuses you when she is drunk every time maybe a seperation is the only way forward.
You happiness is important and being upset on a regular basis and feeling like you do is not the way to be.
All the best
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