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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my gf says she has trouble talking to me because i'm doom and gloom, she wont say it to my face and i think its a bs excuse not to talk to me over msn.she pours her heart out and makes more of an effort to talk to him, he relays goings on to me. iv been getting increasingly frustrated with this, shes supposed to be my friend and my gf and i cant talk to her properly without getting one word answers. my friend has asked her why she dosent talk to me much several times n she avoids the answer, iv asked why she focuses on him more aswell and she thinks im jealous and have a problem with her talking with him, so im slowly feeling trapped on this matter.its painful knowing she dosent come to me for anything anymore.what can i do? im already making loads of effort to talk to her on msn in a happier tone, i dont see how asking her about work, any new music shes found and is looking for and her plans for the evening are doom amd gloom. when we are together we have fun, shes smiley and happy, as am i, we are good buddies. but she wont talk about het current issues with me, she does with my friend. help what to do?
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Try to ask questions that require a developed answer. Start your sentences with "How was ...", "What do you think of...". Don't ask just "hi, how are you?". The answer will always be one word.
Plus, try to call her attention with interesting topics. Also, try to meet her, usually a conversation over MSN worth nothing, because you can't see her reactions and gestures. If you can't see her in real life, you might want to call her or talk to her on the phone. It's pretty much the same, you can feel her reactions by her diaphragm (happy, tired, enthusiastic, sad etc).
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