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writes:I was at a party with my GF and we slept on the couch of a female friend that was hosting the party. I was on one end sort of sitting back and my GF was laying in the opposite direction.Well the problem is I wake up at about 6:30 am and look down and the girl (whose house we are staying at) is sucking me off vigorously, seriously I am starting to orgasm as I awaken. I start to protest, but then blew my load down her throat. She zipped me up and left the room, my GF knows nothing.The thing is I didn't want this at all, I feel raped. I don't believe my GF will buy it and my relationship means everything to me. What should I do? Tell her? Or take it to the grave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): tell your girlfriend straight away
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): u should tell her because if she find out from someone else if could be worse on you she might forgive for saying the truth but she wont forgive you for lying
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): q1605, a women can have an orgasm during a rape and yet we still don't consider it consensual just because of that.
This guy was orally raped.
Tell the GF, I don't know. I would probably tell her, but I am also the absoutely last person that most of my friends would ever peg for a cheater. So this guy's situation might be different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): That is rape, you consented to nothing! You have to tell her though, what happened to you was wrong and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You did not cheat on her but hiding it from her makes you look guilty. Tell her you didn't know how to tell her or what to do about the situation. If she truly loves you shell understand. And don't be surprised when she's hurt by this, it depends on how good a friend your GF thinks this other women is?
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 That's horrible, and yes I would feel violated and raped there too. But there's nothing you can really do except tell your girlfriend. There's a chance she really slept through it, the friend won't tell anyone, and you could keep this a secret forever... but there's a greater chance that your girlfriend either already knows or will find out sooner or later and you'd probably be best telling her about it yourself.
Besides that, I'd tell your girlfriend that you're not comfortable being friends with this other girl, or being around her anymore. If you never tell your GF and end up being around this friend again, who's to say this won't happen again (possibly much worse)?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Tell your girlfriend and tell her immediately! Sooner or later it WILL get out somehow... and the longer it takes, the more your girlfriend will feel like you are hiding something by not telling her. You were raped, and while no police will believe you... you must bring it out in the open. If your girlfriend loves you then she will understand.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Tell your girlfriend! If she finds out from someone else she'll definitely get the wrong end of the stick, and anyway, why would you tell her at all if you were cheating on her? She should believe you.
I'm assuming the girl whose house you were staying at was a friend of yours and your girlfriend's...? Then your girlfriend has a right to know what a bad friend this person is. If not this girl might carry on doing crazy shit and abusing people's trust and rights. Technically she raped you and what she did is punishable.
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (30 March 2010):
 WOW! As I read in disblief. She was really disrespectful, especially since your GF was right there and could have awaken at any moment. What if your GF put her up to it to see if you would tell her. What if your GF wasnt really sleep and was waiting for you to tell her? What if......? You have to have considered this all. This would definently break up their relationship, and I dont know how she feels about this girls who's house you were over. But I think you shoudl tell her, before the friend begins to feel "guilty" and decides to tell her or tell her you asked for it. Good Luck.
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