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writes:Last sunday I had my big 50th lunch for a lot of friends.My best friend is unemployed, and does some taxi driving for people he knows to earn some extra cash.During the lunch he just disappeared .I asked where he'd gone and all anyone knew was he'd received an urgent phone call. I thought maybe hs mother had been called ill.He was gone over an hour, missed the meal (which I was paying for) and my speech.When he came back (near the end of the whole party) he told me he'd had to go and do a taxi job. I told him it wasn't cool what he'd done.He said he needed the money desperately. I guessed he might have earned $25 from the job.Am I right to be appalled he disappeared like that without telling me this job may have come up ?One person's reaction is we don't know just how much $25 might mean to him.What do you think?
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Birthdays are over-rated. Things are tough all over. And Miss Anne makes a great point. If this guy is in financial straits as desperate as that for money, I think you really should consider the circumstance here.
People tend to get very emotional about milestone birthdays. why I don't know. I can understand 21, but 50? It's a half century,yes, but also a reminder that you have more days behind you than you have ahead of you.
Society puts too much credence on these type of events. From what I understand you are more upset about wasting 25 bucks on his meal than his friendship.
Anyway, if you have such a milestone Birthday, why the hell were you paying for your own party? If it's supposed to be such a big day, shouldn't your friends have thrown it for you and paid for it?
You need to dial this down a notch
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Sometimes, people concoct stories or get others to phone them on the pretext of something-or-other, to get them out of boring situations.Example: I went on a blind date a few years ago and my daughter offered to phone me about 1 hour into the date. If it was going great, I'd reply that I'm busy right now, could I call back tomorrow? If the date was a minger, I'd say something like "What? really?? OK, I'll be right there!" and tell her something awful had happened - gotta go...etc etc.Get the picture? A possibility. Hope I'm wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I think you are acting a bit childishly for having had your 50th birthday, I have two years on you.
Even though I would have been dissappointed that my friend had to leave the party, I would never disparage someone who needed the money to go earn it honestly when the opportunity arose for him, since his job is "on call", what do you want him to do, starve?
Apologize to him for giving him a hard time and thank him for making an appearance at your party.
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