A
male
age
51-59,
Dr. Mark
writes:I am more experienced on the receiving end of blowjobs then the giving end, but perhaps I can give a few pointers to those who are setting out to try this for the first time.First of all, keep in mind that fellatio (giving blowjobs) is an art. As you become more experienced and more confident, you will only get better and better at it.If you haven't yet had your first experience, it is very important to remember NO TEETH! What I would like you to do for practice is to take two of your own fingers, and practice slipping them into your mouth gently. When your teeth touch, even slightly, remember that the penis is very sensitive. Even slight contact with teeth can be very painful. As a beginner, do not let your teeth touch.Now, when you practice with your fingers, first moisten your lips. Get them as wet as you can with your tongue. Make sure you keep your mouth and lips wet throughout the whole experience.Before you begin on the real thing, insist that he is very clean... and preferably make him have a shower first if there is one available nearby. You can shower with him to add to his pleasure and anticipation. Cleanliness will add to your enjoyment.When you first start off, and your heart is doing that little pounding thing that it will likely be doing first time, take your time to look at his penis. Use your hands to caress the tops of his legs, gently stroking and sliding between his legs and his scrotum. This will start to create an excitement in him as he anticipates what will come next. Take your time. At first, everything should be as slow as possible. Enjoy the moment, relax, and begin to feel as though you love his penis. Prepare your mind by wanting his penis and feeling like you need to look after it and cherish it. You will want to look up often at his face and see the look of pleasure that you are giving him. You are in control. Enjoy that feeling of control!Now wet your lips well, and begin.When you first take it into your mouth, instead of opening wide and inserting it, start by just touching the tip of it to your wet lips. Then very slowly, using very little or no pressure, slip it into your mouth. It should just slide in Again, you can practice beforehand using your fingers.Don't worry about being able to take him in all the way. It isn't necessary. When it reaches the back of your tongue, you may have a gagging sensation the first time. This is natural. You should learn to control this, but at the beginning, just back off a little (and remember NO TEETH!!). He will likely want to feel his whole penis is inside, but you can achieve a sensation of this, if you wrap one or both hands around the base. This way, between your mouth and hands, the whole length of it is surrounded by you.Once inside, there are various techniques you can practice. Remember, your first time will be perfect, just because he will love it no matter what. As you learn more, you can master it, and there is no rush to learn everything your first time. You can simply slide it slowly in and out between your gently closed lips. You can take a break from this, and lick the length of it from the base to the tip. You can gently suck on it. A very intense feeling can be aroused by sucking on just the very tip. The very tip has the most sensation. Be warned though, that you can get him off very quickly this way!As you become experienced, you will not want to neglect his scrotum. You can lick his scrotum, and very gently take one of his testicles into your mouth. The same teeth warning applies here. If he can tolerate it (this can create intense feelings), very very gently start to suck on one. You can also spread his legs wider apart and lick a little below his scrotum. Again, keep your tongue and lips wet the whole time.Now, if your boyfriend is young, and if this is fairly new to him too, he will likely have an orgasm very early on. Even if you take it very slowly, you may not have time to even get as far as his scrotum. That's fine. But you do need to be prepared for his orgasm:"Coming"------------Keep watching his face, and try to sense from his body when his orgasm will start. Once it starts, it will happen very quickly. Tell him to let you know before it happens, and as it gets closer. You should think beforehand what you want to do. There are several choices open to you. If you are not comfortable with him coming in your mouth, then you can take it out, and stroke him with your hands through the ejaculation period, aiming it up towards his chest (assuming he has his shirt removed!) Do not let him force you to come in your mouth if you are not ready for it. That would be inconsiderate of him, and if this happens, make sure it is the last blowjob you ever give him. It is entirely your choice whether he comes in your mouth..Ok, so you've decided to let him come in your mouth. For many men, there can be a very erotic feeling, knowing that his partner swallowed. When this happens, you may have an initial gagging sensation. It will be very warm to hot, but try not to let it take you by surprise. You can choose to swallow it, or not. If you do swallow it, it will likely give you a globby feeling going down your throat. Some people giving blowjobs are excited by the sensation, and some may even enjoy the taste. Some do not particularly like the taste, but have learned to tolerate it. Some can't stand the taste or sensation, and like to have it over as soon as possible at that point. Some have described the taste as being like salty egg whites. Some say it has a sweet taste. You won't know until you try for yourself, and not everyone's semen tastes the same. Diet supposedly has a lot to do with it, and you can research this on line if you are interested. You can feel free to take it in and swallow on the first time, or just wait for a subsequent experience. Remember the choice is up to you.Also be aware that even if you do have him cum in your mouth, you don't have to swallow it. You can discretely put the contents into a paper towel or tissue that you have near by for this purpose. Or you can just continue to move up and down the shaft of his penis, and allow it to discretely leave your mouth at this time, back onto him. The paper towel or tissue will come in handy for cleaning up after this too.Have a chaser drink close at hand -- maybe your favourite soda or juice to wash it down.I don't want to make is sound worse than it is. I have had experiences with partners who have used each of these methods (not coming in mouth at all, swallowing, spitting out, and discretely allowing it to drain out). There is no right way - it is totally up to you.So now, remember, this can be a lot of fun. You may be nervous at first, but as you practice, you will enjoy becoming more skilled.Finally, after you have done this for him, HE will need to reciprocate for you. If not right away, then soon after. You have just put out all for him, and you need a turn to be on the receiving end!Be Safe and Have fun!!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Good article but just to add a postscript, remember it's possible to get a range of STDs from oral sex so if in doubt take great care!
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