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writes: I've been seeing my bf for some time and we both would like to have intercourse with each other for the first time (we are both over 20 and are going to be protected, of course) but should we rent a room in a hotel or have it at one of our houses? I don't know where to go about setting it up. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, pops +, writes (8 October 2005):
Ask him. Not us. You are not planning a wedding reception. Most people are not this clinical about their first time. If you are both virgins, I suggest you spend some time talking about sex before getting undressed. But do it someplace away from beds, and before the big day. If you have the privacy of your own home to make love in, do it there. Why would you rent a hotel or motel room for your first time if you have a more comfortable place. Sex is adult play. You are suppose to have fun. You are suppose to teach other what turns you on, and makes you feel good, and makes you climax. If you don't know, you have homework to do before making love to a man. Lovers pleasure each other, and put that before their own pleasure. First times are full of anxieties, on both partner's parts. The sex gets a lot better as you get to know each other, get more comfortable with each other, and with having sex. Teach your bf how to engage in foreplay, and both of you need to learn about oral sex as part of foreplay, if not as part of the main event. There are great educational videos and dvds now available for you both to watch and learn from. The most important thing to learn is the mutual trust, and comfort that the real life couples used to make these movies demonstrate. The first time can be wonderful, or a disaster. But it will not compare to the sex you will have as you master skills, relax, enjoy playing with your lover, and enjoy having orgasms. They just get better and better. Have fun.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (8 October 2005):
 I know it's a big thing, the first time with someone new and someone you really care about and you want it to be special. Just be careful, thought, because sometimes, if you build it up to be too much, it can be a disappointment. We all know sex isn't like it is in the films!
If he means something to you, wherever you do it will be incredible so don't try too hard to make it 'perfect', just enjoy it and treasure the moment. Good luck and have fun!
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