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writes:I sign up on i dating site there this guy on it asked me if i wanted 2 catch up for a drink on saturday night . Should i go and where the best place to going never being on a dating site before? and what should i watch out for any help would be great thank you for your time for reading this Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 meet him somewhere where you can sit and talk and get to know each other... just a drink early enough so he does not think you are going to go home with him.. starbucks is a fav of mine and i often see newly dating couples there (you can so tell a new couple on a date ROFL)
MEET HIM THERE DO NOT LET HIM PICK YOU UP
MAKE SURE friends and family know where you are going and who you are meeting (and make sure he KNOWS they KNOW) you want his full name, a phone number, and where you are meeting and at what time.
have a prearranged time (maybe 2 hours) to call and check in with a friend.... have a code word set up for a BAD situation so the friend can rescue you if needed... DO NOT tell him the code word but make sure he knows you have to call and check in and set an alarm on your phone to do so
These things may NOT be necessary but they will give you peace of mind.
DO NOT get in a car with him... NO MATTER WHAT NO WAY
DO NOT go to a hotel, your place or his place with him...
if you do opt to continue the date past the drink.. MEET HIM where you are going and UPDATE the friends to know ( a movie or dinner... anything PUBLIC)
after the first meeting you should keep up these rules to you are sure he's not Ted Bundy or something...
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (5 January 2012):
 Best places to go are where there are a lot of people around and where there is no chance of you two being alone.
If I was you I would have suggested we meet for coffee/lunch rather than Saturday night drinks. That way, if you don't like him, things don't work out, etc, you can always say that you have dinner plans with a friend and leave it there. Sat night can leave you in an awkward situation (him asking you to go back to his and so on).
If you're not comfortable with meeting him just yet that's ok too and you should not feel pressured to see him at any stage.
Your safety is the most important thing so take care of yourself!
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reader, princess13 +, writes (5 January 2012):
U should go ahead and do it only if u feel comftable tell him to meet u.but go there and be there first watch him for a little while.watch out if he is late that means he has no real goal and will do it just because he feels he has nothing else to do watch his body language how he walks and feels around the people in the room more than three drinks he like it more than u think if he trys to make u drink a lot he just wants to bone no real relationship if he holds ur hand or ur wrist he is to much of a push over hope it helps good luck
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