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writes:I don't know where to start. I was married at 17 and have two children. We have been married for 30 years now. When my first child was about three months old I met the brother of my sisters boyfriend. There was an instant connection, but i was married. We flirted a bit and we could both see that we cared very much for each other. He eventually moved away. About 9 years later he contacted me. I left my husband and we got together. At first it was great, but he became very distant when I started to have a relationship with his ex and his kids. He didn't seem to be very close to his children and they wanted to be with him so his ex had called me a couple of times to ask if the kids could come stay the weekend. I would say yes. He also had problems helping with paying bills because he said he was paying child support. Eventually I found out that he wasn't giving either his ex or me any money. He eventually moved back east again. He got married and I heard he is now divorced again because his wife cheated on him. I don't know why I have this urge to reconnect with him. My marriage is more like a friendship now and I really want to reconnect with this guy. I am thinking about moving east so that there is nobody around to interfere and we can really get to know each other, but I can't get him to talk to me. I don't know if he is just feeling sorry for himself, is he just a narcisist, or is he just scared to death, like me, to try this again. Should I just leave him alone. I feel like he is the only person that has ever really been a part of my heart and soul.
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reader, Bickycat  +, writes (1 June 2010):
You're bored and the rose tinted specs come out. From what you've said this guy is a no-hoper, and you should be thinking about your marriage and if there's any mileage left, when you've sorted that out, THEN move on. I don't think this guys too interested tho, he would have been in touch otherwise.
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reader, Shaniyah Bellamy +, writes (28 May 2010):
I think u should consider the rite and wrongs of ur situation. think about what means the most
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (28 May 2010):
 It sounds to me as though you have no idea when to leave a good mess alone. You said you've tried this once already and it went sour. Now you'd like to see if it'll do the same thing again this time? At the price of your marriage?
The definition of insanity is: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, just sayin'....
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