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writes:I met him on halloween 1997. He was so perfect, he had blonde hair and blue eyes. Hi skin was a golden tan color and his smile made me melt. I fell in love right there, I couldn't help it. We never offically became boyfriend and girlfriend but everyone thought we were. We were attached at the hip for 5 years. He was my entire world, I loved him like nothing I had ever felt in my life. And still haven't to this day. He was my first kiss, and my first time. Back in September of 2002 we kinda parted ways. I didn't think I wanted anything more to do with him, and I thought I had moved on, well I thought wrong. I did meet a guy who I did end up fallin in love with. But the other guy keeps coming back into my life. I still love him, I don't know why, I have no explanation to this. I love the guy I'm with now, and I'm happy with him. He's a great guy, but sometimes part of me feels like it's missing and I can't help but think that when I left that day, I left a part of me there. I still talk to him every once in awhile and his smile still makes me melt. It's been so long that I thought I had really kicked him like a bad habit, but I didn't. Bad habit's always come back to get you. So I guess what they say is so very true. A part of you never stops loving your first love. Does anyone know why?
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reader, Mandy7777 +, writes (6 November 2008):
I think I have the answer you're looking for......
You said that your boyfriend was your "first kiss"...your "first time".....
Understand this...when a woman gives herself to a man sexually, she gives her "whole" self....emotionally as well....Every part of her becomes wrapped up in this man....You gave a very precious part of yourself to him and now, he is out of your life...That's a big loss for you!! and yes, you will think about it and grieve that loss...and possibly compare every man on the planet with your first love.....You need to grieve it and let it go!! but, in the future...don't be so quick at giving yourself away...Wait until you are sure it's the real thing and that the man you love will be a part of your life forever.....
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reader, agony aunt floss  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Dear anonymous,
I think that what you are experiencing is a bond now it may seem like love to you but belive me i honestly think its because you've shared your first kisses and more with each other its like your loyal to each other you share so much in comman, but it doesnt mean yor in love i'd stick with the guy your with if your looking for a life long partner but if your looking for a bit of fun and passion your first loves the way to go. I hope everything goes well.
.Agony Aunt Floss.
(p.s. feel free to mailbox me for a chat or advice)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour so very right, bad habits die hard. And this has been a never ending battle. But I did move on in a way. But I've heard so many people say no matter what nothing will live up to your first love cause you fall so deep and it's the first time you feel anything like that it's true but that's what makes us who we are. I know for a fac that after dealing with all the pain and resentment I had towards him for awhile, that now I'm a stronger more independt person. And that's all that matter.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Hi
Good article, I gues this is a mind boggling question!
I think they also say "Old Habits Die Hard", so is the love we once had. Unfortunately I dont know why and I always believe its always good to remember things that we do or did good or bad. Relationships comes and go either good or bad. However it will always leaves us puzzled that why why why...... it has to end this way......
A good relationship will always be special and will never be easy to let go and on the other hand if its bad we would always wish it could be better if i change my wardrobe, or if i learn to kiss him/her better or improve the sex blah blah ........ there is always regrets either way until we make peace with the Inevitable.
I think we just need to remember that no matter how good or bad the relationship is people change, time changes, situations changes as well and like it or not the past shapes our future however the best thing is that it can not dictate our future.
So unlike others you are very lucky that you were able to have someone who loves you although it can not be the same but in a way that makes you happy. So boys and girls this is just a challenge we are faced with as long as relationships makes our lives.
Inconclusion lets all embrace our relationship and be content with what we have however we must know when to let go!
Jovial
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