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writes:Ladies, this question is obviously for you. I just have some basic questions regarding the dynamic of female gasms.Please take the time to read and answer the whole question1. Can all women experience G-Spot orgasms? If so, do some women simply require something as ridiculous as a vibrator or huge dildo to reach it?2. Do all G-Spot orgasms result in squirting?3. Do women on average, prefer one G-Spot orgasm to multiple clitoral ones?The reason I'm asking this question is because my girlfriend reacts strongly to clitoral stimulation, her back arches, her breathing stops for a second, tghen comes back faster than before. She makes whimpering noises, but nothing excessive. She reacts in a VERY similar, almost identical manner to my use of the "come hither" motion in a gradually increasing slow to fast on her G-Spot. Are both of these orgasms the same for her? I always thought G-Spot orgasms were these earth shattering, muscle wilting events that essentially crippled the girl. Anyway, the similarity of the two has be thinking that shes either faking it, or I'm simply not doing a good job. We are each others first sexual partners, and have been active for about 3-4 months, trying to do it at least 3 times a week. I simply don't know what to do and Im beginning to doubt myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm feeling a bit better now. BUt I do have one more small question. What exactly are the vaginal contractions that signify an orgasm and when do they ocur (clit or gspot?) I don't mean explain how they work anatomically, but just what would they feel like if I was using my finger, tongue or penis. All I've ever noticed is an intense back arch, halted breathing and then a sudden increase in wetness, feels like internal squirting kind of. Maybe a tiny flutter in the muscles, but nothing like the finger ripping or penis gripping feeling that people on here mention. does that mean it simply wasn't intense enough? or does she just not contract that violently?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): I think the others have covered everything pretty well, so I'll just answer your issue with her "ridiculous back arching". She says it's involuntary - and it probably is! I know that it's definitely involuntary for me! When my boyfriend's been putting some work in getting me in the mood, often he just has to touch my back and my muscles there just involuntarily contract, which makes my back arch. So I definitely wouldn't use back-arching to gauge whether or not she's faking.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Let's have a go at this one. After all I've had more orgasms than anyone else I know.
1. Can't speak for all women, but most do. And no,it doesn't take anything ridiculously oversized to do it. Even fingers can work, in fact.
2. No. Squirting isn't exactly a myth, but doesn't happen nearly as often as porn movies would seem to indicate. It's a very rare phenomenon, in fact.
3. Once again, can't speak for all, but I rather like clitoral orgasms myself. (Well, what's not to like about them?)
As for whether you girlfriend is faking - it sure doesn't sound like it! But you never do know, I guess. Why ruin what seems to be a good sexy relationship by over-thinking it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): "but the one sign for me that I cant get over is a ridiculous back arching"
Hey, who are you to call her back arching "ridiculous". Seriously...
The key to good sex is communication, followed by practice, followed by communication, then more practice, etc, etc, etc...
Don't ever refer to anyone's behavior during their pleasure as "ridiculous".
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Well, I prefer a clitoral-gspot combo. I like foreplay, and some clit play, followed by working into the vagina with the come hither motion...on top of come hither, arch your finger once u hit that spot (spongy gspot), and just move ur hand up and down. It may seem rough, but it makes it better, believe me. Rubbing ur fingers in a come hither way is the teasing part, once u find the spot, ur hand going up and down fast makes the arched finger push the gspot and makes the orgasm come faster. Tho this motion can be bad, if, say, you the male have long fingernails and they scratch inside...that happened once to me, and it RLY hurt. Anyways, on with the advice.
1.) I am pretty sure most women can experience at least some minor form of gspot orgasm from stimulation...you do NOT need a huge vibrator or anything crazy. Size does not mean it hits the spot, quite the opposite. The gspot is about 3-4 inches inside on the upper wall of the "cave" so to speak, and is spongy and diff in texture.
2.) NO, not all gspot orgasms result in squirting. Not all women CAN squirt, I have heard. I can, I proudly announce =). Its pretty amazing, and it leaves me really drained.
3.) Which orgasm is preferred comes down to preference. Some, prefer the gspot orgasm hands-down, others, dont, because they say it exhausts them too m,uch, so they would much rather have multiple clitoral orgasms. I like both...clit a bit first, followed by the gspot one =).
And, heres the thing with girls, some are noisier in ALL orgasm types, and some arent as noisy. It could be that's just HER. I moan, squeak, writhe, and make noise when I orgasm, i am LOUD, tho I will say when I actually squirt/orgasm internally I am a LOT louder, but its simply bc its rly intense for me. she sounds like she does react, but shes not as noisy. Maybe its bc, altho the gspot one feels good, its not an internal orgasm, but teasing her more? Make sure to find the spongy gspot and hit it with ur finger or fingers good.
I hope this all helps =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOne more thing I didn't really emphasize as a 4th part of my question is what are the odds that shes only having the build up and not the actual orgasm or faking.
She gets the flush, breathes faster, sweats a bit, but the one sign for me that I cant get over is a ridiculous back arching. She constantly arches her back, saying that its involuntary. Other than this, the only question I have is regarding the muscle contractions that come with an orgasm. What do they feel like and are they always detectable? I never notice any clenching around my member or fingers, and I spend time time and more time working on it. I'm trying very very hard but have no way to see how I'm doing, because she doesnt masturbate and has no intention of starting, so I have nothing to compare myself to.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Usually women can't orgasm from only g-spot stimulation without the addition of clitoral stimulation. Different women react differently to different stimulation, so she may just not find it that earth shattering. Really an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. It's probably more about build-up than what got her there.
1. It's nearly impossible to achieve a purely g-spot orgasm without additional clitoral stimulation. A vibrator or a dildo has nothing to do with it. Many vastly prefer the stroking come-hither motion and it's always more fun to have a partner than a piece of plastic. The mental bit of that alone trumps the toy. Sexual arousal and orgasm are in your brain, so mental stimulation is important too.
2. Depends on the woman, but pretty rarely. Squirting is actually pretty difficult for most women, and it requires very specific circumstances. It's kind of like a rare perk rather than an expectation.
3. You'd have to ask your girlfriend, it's a personal preference. Some women hate having their g-spot stimulated, others don't notice a difference, and some love it.
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