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writes:hi, i have been married 13 years and i have 2 kids 11 and 1...i have always had a great relashionship with my brother in law...his wife recently passed and i have helped him a lot with his kid and we have passed a lot of time together..i must confess that i have always had feelings for him and one day we were talking and he leaned forward and kissed me and i didnt step back..it was something that maybe i had been hoping for...i have a great relashionship with my husband but i dont know what to do..and i have been in this for about 6 months and when im with my brother in law i dont feel any guilt whatsoever..i dont want to leave my husband or my new relasionship.please give me some advice...should i tell my husband or not. i really dont want to give up my husband or my brother in law Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): hey,,im back..im the one who wrote...im happy to say that i finally put a stop to everything with my brother in law..by the way hes not my sister husband, hes my husbands brother..well anyway..things were getting really complicated...i decided to tell him to step back and he no longer visits my home nor am i taking care of his kid anymore..i didnt tell my husband and i dont plan to..things are getting better with my husband..i told him that i needed him to be home more with me and hes doing everything he possibly can..things can change for better just talking to one another..this was thefirst time i cheated and honestly i dont plan to do it anymore..thanks for everyones advice..i just hope my brother in law doesnt say anything out of spite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Please, see this yearning for your BIL as a need unfulfilled in your present relationship and work to resolve it. Nothing good can come from wrecking your family because you need more attention of the illegitimate kind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): It would be very selfish of you to keep this going. Remember this brother in law is going through a tough and confusing period right now and he sucks up any warmth he can get. That's what people often do to fill the void. You on the other hand have a great husband, 2 kids of which one is only a baby...do you really want to destroy this because of your feelings towards this other guy?If you love your family and care about them, do what's best for your hubby and kids. Put a stop to this. Support your brother in law emotionally because of his loss, but leave it at that. Your hubby and kids deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): so hes your brother in law...so your sister passed away recently? so your sister passes away and you start seeing her husband?? do you really need an awnser to this? you should be ashamed of yourself not only are you direspecting your sister but putting your own family in jepordy?? terrible... and u should stop this affair...how did u think youd continue this?? what would your family and parents think of what kind of person you are?? ridiculous
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Why do people like to spoil a good thing.Your husband has not treated you badly, cant you just love him and you kids.Do you want to lose everything you ve worked for for the last 13 years?
Your brother inlaw is just using you cos hes lonely and hes got nothing to lose when your husband finds out and lets say you end up with him, what are you going to tell your kids?
If am you child, i ll hate you for life cos you noting more than a family wrecker.
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