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writes:Hi.I'm in a long distance relationship for two years and now I'm going to UK for my boyfriend for holiday to spend time with him and meet his family, so he gave a ticket to go there and as a gift for my graduation day, which he promise it before! He's my motivation when it comes to everything. And I love him so much, so while I'm still in my country before we used to talk about getting engaged, like asking me about our future. So now it's the moment were I've been waiting for so long to be with him, now I'm with him and spending 2 months already with his family and staying at their home.He proposed to me, which is made me feel more happy! And after that we decide to get married here soon so the processing toms of visa can go faster.After a few weeks, we were looking for a ring, and I was thinking I like the wedding ring match with my engagement ring! So we keep looking for that same designs, so the next day we bought this Channel set diamond ring wedding bands! And he bought for himself a tension cut gold and white gold wedding bands, and that ring that he bought it has a matching ring for women, and its too late for me to change the ring because we already bought it.Then I realised I feel I'm so selfish thinking about my own ring than pairing him in our wedding ring, the store has even as signage no return no exchange, I don't know I feel so guilty and depressed about myself.Please agony aunts can you give me an advice, am I really too selfish? Or what I did was something wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2014): thank you very much. it was really helpful now i feel okay now. thank you god bless you all :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 January 2014):
 Rings do not have to match. Every time I've had matching rings the marriage died.
this time our rings don't match and trust me this marriage is not ending till one of us dies...
my ring is custom made and matches my custom engagement ring it's yellow gold with white and rose gold and the engagement ring has platinum as well to hold the stones...
my hubby wears a titanium black diamond "one" ring. It's from Lord of The Rings and it has the engraving on it in blue... it's very unusual and he gets asked about it all the time.
My rings are also very unusual and I love them. He loves his.... that's all that matters.
matching rings... not needed.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 January 2014):
 My ring and my husband's didn't match either. His was a very simple gold band ( which he lost years ago and exchanged for a titanium ring due to his work) Mine (which HE picked out) was kind of frilly gold with diamonds. It got stolen when we had a break in and I DID pick out a new one for myself which doesn't match his either, but it's WAY more my style and honestly, why would your rings need to match? They should fit YOU not be some generic version that matches. You are not a purse to his shoes are you? So it's FINE!
Love the ring - wear with with love.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (12 January 2014):
 Congratulations on your engagement.
No, I don't think you did anything wrong. You chose rings you will be happy wearing for the rest of your life. It doesn't matter if they don't match your fiance's wedding band. I don't think I know of a couple with matching wedding bands/rings, come to think of it.
Good luck!
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