A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My husband never shares anything with me. I don't know how much money, loans or feelings about me he has. He is a real holder who holds everything to himself. It took over 14 years of our marriage before he would let go of some control of the house and let me do any decoration such as changing the wallpapers and re-arrange all the rooms etc. So that only now I can call it a home and start inviting people into the house and to build friendships. It has been a very lonely one-side relationship. Although the house is done up and now I can start building a life and have people around. However I cannot help to feel that my life had been withheld for over 14 years. Despite I experienced depression and loneliness a lot of times during these years he just won't let go of any control of his house until there are structural problems needed to address. I don't really want to have much to do with him any more... I am fed up...!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): He is controlling, extremely controlling. But you have also allowed this because you have gone along with it. The good news is you don't have to keep doing it! My advice: get a therapist or social worker to whom you can speak. They can really help when you need to change negative patterns and start having positive habits. Plus they can help you understand why you chose a man that treats you so badly.
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