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anonymous
writes: One night my girlfriend got really carried away when she was on top and it slipped out. She sat on it and it hurt really bad. I was lucky that she didn't break it. Now when she gets on top I go limp. I get hard again real easy but the only way I can describe this is just one word, fear. Other than oral sex this is the only position we have found that she can have an orgasm. She told me that her previous boyfriend and her only did it that way, with her on top. I'm having a real issue because I'm having trouble dealing with knowing someone else gave her something that I haven't been able to. How can I please her again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Try experimenting with positions that provide clitoral stimulation. If you're on top, there is a way you can align your body so that the base of your penis rubs her clit; you don't thrust in this position, both of you rock pelvises against each other until you both come. You can also stimulate her manually; try doing it doggy-style, and reach around and stroke her clit.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 March 2010):
 First of all OUCH! And glad you are OK.
Second of all, just because the EX could only get her of that way doesn't mean you you can't find other and more creative ways to have her enjoy and orgasm. Don't worry about the ex or her previous sex life/positions... Explore together.
The reason some women like to be on top is because the women can fully control the penetration.
I think if you are having actual FEAR with her on top you obviously aren't able to enjoy sex like that, so give the bareback a rest and set out to try to find other ways to please each other.
I'm willing to BET you two can find plenty of other ways to get you BOTH off without the loss of limbs!
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I would start by finding a way to get over the fear of that night where it hurt and now you're struggling with relaxing when in that position.
I don't understand why she felt the need to tell you such detail on what her and her ex boyfriend did in bed though, thats not really something a new partner wants to be hearing about especially in a situation like this.
Have you tried other positions with her or has she just gone on the fact previously this is the only position she can orgasm therefore not really bothered with other positions?
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