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41-50,
anonymous
writes:when my boyfriend was locked up his brother hit on me a lot, we worked together. he is married and they have an open marriage. it seems to work for them. granted i wont deny there was an attraction there to this guy because i wouldn't have written about it if there wasn't. although i never took to his advances and walked away when he made himself to close to my physical being. he is very attractive, he takes care of his wife, they have complete honesty, and that's appealing. my boyfriend is extremely loving, but because of his addiction problems we have had some rather bumpy times. we work through them, but we are currently working out the problems that arose in our past. we are doing well, i love him deeply and he loves me and expresses it in many ways. my problem is, why do i still fantasize about being with his brother? i wake up on occasion completely aroused by dreams of him. should i address these issues with a therapist or is there a deeper meaning, like some intimacy issues i maybe having? i would not ever act on these dreams. its not me and i have had a confrontation with his brother before and told him its highly inappropriate for us to interact in any way other than work related. i had minimized my contact with him, and i had told my boyfriend that i feel his brother had made advances towards me. my boyfriends reaction was that his brother would be attracted to me because im his type, but that he has faith in me that i wouldn't stray. i haven't told him about these dreams. they don't occur often and we have a great sex life- i wouldn't want to jeopardize what we have built.how can i make these dreams stop? should i tell my boyfriend and deal with what may come? is this normal? i set boundaries, but yet in my dreams i break them. its painful to think i would ever fantasize about betrayal. its not healthy and i wouldn't want it done to me. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): its normal to fantasize about him, i think i know who posted this and i knew it for awhile. he hasn't been faithful to you, i never lied to you.
you can meet me by the spot i dropped you off after work at the last time you let me drive you. I'm done with waiting on you to realize this. you were ignoring my calls, my wife and i filed for a mutual divorce. she knows i want to be with you. she is okay with that, she hasn't spoken about it to him because she has moved on emotionally.
we havent had our time yet, but i know who you are inside and i am tired of him taking you for granted, stealing from you, lying, i love you, he even knows it, he can't respect you he knows your better than him and it drives him mad.
meet me where we last seen each other, when i dropped you off after work, i will be there on my next day off. if you are there i will be happy, if not i will accept that. i hope its you. i really do. i have a good feeling it is. i miss you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): same prob here then i did it n it was so hot. he gave me that meaty wad and i cant say how fillin it was never had better still having him for desert when my mans not around. im trying to get pregnant by him and my man wont know coz the baby will be look him. im no jerk, i love what hes done for me, but hes brother is thicker than him. i though i was lucky finding my man till his brother crammed my hole solid. i love his meat. its okay to want more. its human. its wrong to say you dont and then you never get it then you hate your husband and it ruins everything, you know?
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