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writes:Hey guys, um im single atm, but ive became very interested in a girl. Problem is she has a boyfriend, i have been speaking to her everyday for a few weeks now and she tells me everything. She told me that isn't exactly happy with him. He has recently told her that if they split up, he will self harm, in my eyes that is emotional blackmail but its between them at the end of the day. She knows i really like her and i can honestly see me spending the rest of my life with her, and i know she likes me. I dont want to come in between them but i know she doesn't want to stay with him, what could i say to her to help her through this? thanx BigmanwithaBigheart x
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (23 April 2007):
 How many people have said in a relationship, I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU? A lot.
Any break up will have at least one broken heart. But does her boyfriend want her to stay out of pity? I do not think so.
Yes, the boyfriend would be devasted but surely more hurt he would be knowing that she would resent him for making her stay or not being honest with him.
If it very difficult to make the final decision of breaking up but this is a decision she needs to make herself. At the moment she could have memories/history and emotional security in this relationship.
Fear of the unknow may stop her from making the leap, couples usually try to work harder in relation before breaking up.
Does she know how you really feel for her? Would it be wise to start a new relationship with someone on rebound?
Expectations would be high and could result in resentment if she was pressured into a rushed decision.
To fancy a person could mean different things to different people.
Is this fancy worth the break up or just a crush? You can only find out by talking about this further.
If it possible to love someone dearly but to be in love with another. If she is in love with you, the love she feels for her partner is more of friendship and she should not be with him any longer.
But if they break up it should not be because of you, but because she does is not in love with her partner anymore.
If you just fancy her, you need to be sure that you are both compatible and have enough grounds to make a new relationship work, to give it a chance to last.
If you are really in love with her, and feel that their relationship has in fact ended, then all you can do is to let her know that you are there for her.
If really depends how long are you prepared to wait but you both need to establish your true feelings for eath other by talking this situation.
Angel of Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Eventhough you know that she doesn't want to be with her boyfriend how do you know that she wants to be with you? So move on and don't get yourself involved in her and her boyfriend's personal problems, it'll only make matters worse.
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