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writes:im 13 and i moved form a neworleans to bradleyville a microscopis town and i was very much loved in new orleans and since i moved to bradleyville everyone hates me including my mum and sister who are with me but my mom and dad are divorced and i was wondering if i should go live with him we get along better and i think mt mom sister and grandma and i need to be apart for a while to cool down what should i do?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 I think moving is very hard on anybody and if you had to move all of a sudden, then you didn't have any time to prepare for it. It is very stressful, on you, on your mom, your sister, everybody.
You sound very resentful of the move, and is it possible that you are letting everyone know how much you hate this microscopic town every day, that you'd much rather be somewhere else? If I had to deal with someone who resented me and where we lived everyday, I'd get pretty exasperated and might not be too nice if I thought the attitude was getting out of hand.
Look, I moved a lot when I was growing up. I went to three different elementary schools and three different high schools. It stinks, it's not fun, it's very wrenching to have to move away from people who love you. But you know that if you have the right attitude, and try to meet new people, you will eventually find new people who love you.
I think that you could discuss moving to your dad's if you are really unhappy, but you have to realize that getting along with someone is a lot easier when you don't live with them. When you do live with them, you have to abide by the rules of the house, and you may find just as much conflict and tension at dad's as you do at home now. Plus you'll have to start all over again, and that in itself is stressful.
So, yes, Bradleyville may not be New Orleans, but there are still people there who will get to know you if you give it half a chance.
So my advice to you is to look carefully at yourself and the way you are choosing to interact with your mom and sister. There may be a reason you think they hate you. They probably are just fed up with you sulking all day about Bradleyville.
Ask to talk with the counselor at your school if this is really bothering you. Sometimes you just need to talk to an adult who knows you but isn't family to get some more perspective on things.
Keep your grades up and do well in school, save all the money you can and you'll be able to get yourself to college and make up your own mind where you want to live when you're just a few years older!
Good luck!
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reader, *$Maurice$* +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Is their any reason 4 them 2 be mad at u and or 2 hate u because u should jus ask them head on what is their problem they could be mad at moving. They could be mad at something else jus ask them and try 2 help them calm down because running from it won't do any good.
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