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writes:My exboyfriend and I dated for almost 6 years; we broke up in 2005. I am now married and have a baby and am very happy in life. I know my ex has been having trouble finding someone to settle down with. I haven't really talked to him for the past few years, but we're on good terms. I found out recently, though, that he told my best friend that he would like to date her. Not just sleep around with her, but get serious. I don't know what to think of this. My best friend is also looking to settle down with someone, but I don't think he's her type, and I don't think that she would do that, seeing as she never really cared for him anyway. She was nice to him, and talked to him once in a while, but they were never close. She always told me she was happy I wasn't with him anymore. I'm a little angry at him, and my pride is hurt. I want to say something to her, ask her how she feels about it, but she didn't want me to find out. (I found out through a mutual friend of mine and my ex). Should I trust her to make the right decision, or should I confront her about it? Another thing is I know he's making snide remarks about me lately, that I'm married and "child ridden" so his life can go back to normal now. I haven't talked to him much in the past few years, I've never made remarks to him about anyone he was dating, I never interfered with his life at all, so why would he make a remark like that? He said this recently, and I've been married for two years, why would he make a comment like that now?I want to ignore this, and if it was any other woman he was talking to, I wouldn't give a crap about it, I'd say good for him finding someone he's happy with. But I can't get over the fact it's my bestfriend he wants to date. If they do start dating, do you think I'm justified in cutting her out of my life? And why would she tell our other friends about this, but not me? Why doesn't she want me to know? Do you think it's because she wants to get serious with him and is trying to keep it a secret? Like I said, I'm trying to not let this bug me, but all I keep thinking is they are going to get together and I'm going to have to see them together at friend's houses and parties, etc.
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