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writes:I am getting to a really bad point in my life where i just feel like completely breaking down. I feel as though noone ever wants to listen to me, like yesterday for instance i was trying to help my boyfriend and his friend out and they just talked over me like they didnt give a shit. When i was trying to talk about the book i was reading his friend said can you stop? i lost interest about half an hour ago. And my boyfriend always cuts into what i say and doesnt care at the points i do make, often just walks off when im speaking or summat.Hes also been whinging at me to get some money together so i can help pay off his debts which its gonna be impossible for me to find, with both my parents in the exact position were in. My mum could be homeless soon cos she cant keep up with her rent either. So i'm in a dire situation. I feel really bad for my mum, i feel like my boyfriend doesnt care. Im too young to be bogged down with shit like this anyway and just want good times and good memories! I guess i just want to live my life so i dont die tomorrow having not lived it to the fullest.Oh and to top it all off im not in the best health lately, been having panic attacks or about to have them for past fortnight... And thinking i maybe pregnant too but waiting for next period to find out. So what can i do?? I just feel so emotional and worn out and lost! I also fell out with my best friend the other week which was a good thing and was one stress off my mind but now i dont have any other friends to turn to really.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (19 June 2009):
 People will treat you how you allow them to treat you...if your boyfriend does not pay you any respect or show interest in what you have to say, leave him for someone who does or enjoy single life. As for paying off his debts, what is that about? It sounds like he is using you for money to be honest. You ask what to do? Take control of your life and understand you are in charge of you! Everyone goes through bad times in their relationships with other people and lots of people also have major life stress from time to time. It is a question of how you deal with it, you need to lose the helplessness view ('oh the bad stuff happens to me, and it is not my fault, poor me') and replace it with a more positive coping thought/ strategy (life can be bad but I can problem-solve my way through it). You have to problem-solve every issue in your life step by step - if your BF does not make you happy, ditch him before he fleeces you for cash and dumps you to escape paying it back. If your mum is at risk of homelessness, escort her to the local authority homelessness unit for advice or ask the citizens advice bureau to work with the landlord. She maybe entitled to housing allowance (used to be called housing benefit) or other benefits to get her through a bad patch and welfare advisors can tell her about this. If you think you are pregnant, ask yourself why you got in this situation with a man who doesn't respect you - hopefully you will not be, but make sure you use contraception for future reference. A man with debts isn't going to be much help with the costs of a baby is he? If you are feeling anxious, see your GP and ask for some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni listen to everyone all the time and realy take interest but it feels like noone gives a shit what i have to say and noones interested in listenening to me.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 What's "living to the fullest" to you? You seem to be focus on yourself a lot and want others to do the same thing.
Everyone likes a good listener, if you talk too much, they'll look elsewhere for someone to listen to them.
"I want people to listen to me!", That's understandable but there's ways to do it that won't affect people in a negative way. You have 2 ears and one mouth, used them in proportion.
People like positive, smiles, things that will cheer them up.
I know this is somewhat a place to "speak your heart out" but the way you said it, it's like you want people to have pity on you.
"God will never put obstacles that you can't overcome."
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