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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and half year. We just recently moved in with each other and after two months Ii don't think I want to be with him anymore. We argue all the time - he's in really big debt and expects me to pay for all the bills so he can go out drinking. I arranged to go away for the weekend for a friend's birthday and he called me selfish. He also never helps out round the house and if he gets home and the house is a tip. He calls me lazy even though Ii'm at work all day. Things are always different for him; he does what he likes and I'm supposed to let it drop but when I arrange anything with my friends he argues with me for days about it and accuses me of seeing other people. I've recently seen my ex-boyfriend and think I may still have feeling for me. I need help. I don't know what to do anymore. It feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): this boyfriend of yours is very insecure for him to get mad at you for making plans with your friends but its okay for him to do it sounds like he is afraid that you will do something, he wants to keep you all to him, if you have fun without him would make him feel less important, this type of guy isn't someone you want to even waste your time with cuz he will never change and will always make you feel bad for things that are normal for you to do and it sounds like he is very very selfish , no good . but this doesn't mean you should go running back to your ex ,.. he is your ex for a reason, remember that!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): Your boyfriend oviouly isen't the one for you! Do you really want to carry on like this,or even spend the rest of your life like this. You need to decide before it is to late.I would not think about your ex-boyfriend, if your going to finish with your recent boyfriend don't make matters worse and don't hurt his feelings.
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A reader, Erin, writes (9 March 2005): Sounds like you should leave him. He doesnt seem ready for a live in relationship and by the sounds of it he doesnt seem to be very sensitive to you at all. Abuse doesnt just come physically; verbal can be just as bad. There are men out there that can treat you a lot better and just because you have been with him for almost 3 years doesnt mean you owe him anything. Cut your losses while you can, dont waste your life. Im sorry for being so blunt but I have been in your shoes and it took 8 years and 2 kids later to finally see that things never got any better and I dont mean to say that yours is the same its just men get set in there ways quick and if he is like this now chances are he wont change. Its easy to fall into a comfort zone and its very hard to remove yourself from it but once you do you will be so much happier with yourself. Good luck.
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