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*hoenixrising
writes:Hi,I've recently broken up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years becuase I found out for the third time that he was telling other girls that he loved them and wanted to be with them. He'd been lying to me for a long time and I found out by going through his email. I've since admitted that to him and we both agree that there was no trust in our relationship. I also in the last few weeks wasn't faithful to him. I knew we'd hit a rut and I got lonely. Again, I've admitted this to him. I know I need some space because I have a lot of issues to get through and I've made the decision to stay single for a while. Since we broke up though we have been in contact a lot and he wants to give us another go, in a year after we've had a break. I know its early days still but I'm not sure if my trust can mend. I love him dearly and I'm desperate for it to work for us but no-one else seems to be on my side and they say I'm better off without him. I don't agree because I know I had my part to play in our relationship breaking down. So yeh...I'm confused. Please help.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Hi love,
Why would your man tell other women he loved them and wanted to be with them? Unless there is a deep insecurity within him, As you really need to be with someone before you say I love you and its not just one girl....
You admit you havent done the right thing either, and you also say you have many issues to get through...
Spend some time with you love get to know what you want and sort out your problems one by one, You are still young and having a break is what you need I agree with you there but you cant say if you will get back together in a year as alot can happen in that time....
You may feel quite different then, I would just take one day at a time hunny, Trust is a big issue here and its something you will have to think about very carefully as when something like this happens it makes us feel insecure and lonely as you said.
The more people tell you not to go back the more you will want to, You really need to see the situation for how it is, You must have been hurt when you heard what he had said to other girls...
Would you want to be in a situation where this would happen again?
Take care of you for awhile and see how things go, without the pressure of worrying about your ex and other women and what others are saying, I think you need to take a deep breath and put all this to one side at least for now, Then when you feel a little stronger after you have sorted some of these issues out Im sure you will be able to think about what you want in a more clear way... TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, norah  +, writes (17 August 2007):
hi first look its a nice step that u broke up with him he cheated on u and love is based only on trust yeah i know that u r lonely but u will know someone better who deserves u and u will forget about him ur ex
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