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writes:Well because i haven't been in school since monday my friend told me today that this girl that i told who i fancied told this boy and he shouted it out and EVERYONE heard and now the boy i fancy knows and because im new at that school its going to be sooo embaarssing as everyone's going to keep asking about it when i come in on monday! And i don't know what to do because i cant go up to the boy and say straight that i don't fancy him cos its embarassing and like i said im new at that school :(:(HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): Awwwh hun, the same fing happened to me last year! I told my closest friends about it, who i knew wouldn't spread the word round school...However, i ended up telling one of my not so... trustworthy mates! BIG MISTAKE! Anywayz, the day after i was poorly n stayed off school for like a week. When i went back almost everyone knew about it including the boy himself! And the worst thing was i had to sit next to him in about 5 lessons a week [seating plan] so obviously i felt really awkard! But as time passed [roughly a whole school year] this crush faded away...The embarrassment didn't last that long and soon after i really couldn't care less bwt him knowing - i still stared at him loadz!
Soon you will realise it's no big deal, ppl will obviously ask if you really do fancy him and the boy may tend to stare at you - But really dats all you gotta cope with, you may feel really scared bout it now but i can asure you dat it wont be as bad as you fink x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Just keep a cool head. You haven't been in school for this week and if you're not in till Monday then what this big mouth boy has said has the next couple of days to die down- you'd be surprised what seems like major gossip turns into unimportant in a couple of days.
The way I see it, you've got a couple of options, depending on how "new" you are to the school. You could just say "so what?" like it's no big deal. The other kids are probably waiting to rib you and watch you get all embarrassed. If you act like you don't care if they know and it's no biggie, they have nothing left to go on and it should blow over.
You could deny everything and say they made it up. However, this could backfire as the others are more likely to believe them than you as they've know them for longer. Also the girl you told may turn her back on you for branding her a liar, and could influence others to do the same. (Although she shouldn't have blabbed anyway but meh)
You could not say anything and just hide. But I wouldn't advise that really.
As for the guy you like, I wouldn't approach him for a while. If you do try and talk to him with the truth (or lies) you'll probably end up making it worse. If he approaches you and asks you out, then that'd be great.
(Responsible adult time.....go out together with mixed boy and girl friends and let people know where you are!)
If he says no you could just take it on the chin and say okay no sweat. OR (and this is where the "new" bit comes in) you could tell a cheeky fib and say you shouldn't have said anything to that girl really as you already have a boyfriend back home/at your old school/online etc etc (to save some face) But if someone you know there KNOWS for sure you don't, then don't lie. Cause he might tell someone and the next thing you'll hear will be "No she doesn't!!"
Whatever you do though, I would find a private moment with the girl you told and ask her why she told this boy, as that's not on really and tell her you're disappointed she betrayed your trust. She shouldn't do it again then!!
Best of luck :-)
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reader, Mystic Moo +, writes (20 June 2007):
 DV1 is right, you should be proud of liking him. Inevitably you are going to be embarassed but if people tease you about it don't let them get to you. I was in a similair situation. I told my so-called best friend that I was in love with a guy and she broke friends with me and told people and it got spread round so now everyone knows. What's worse nis, the guy I love is a teacher. It was so humiliating but now I just laugh about it and deliberately bore them to death by going on about him.
Don't worry, Hopefully no-one will bother you about it and the girl who told that other boy must have a small pathetic life.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Be proud of the fact that you like him. If you really like him, you should want the entire world to know it... :)
DV1
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