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writes: hi I am 15 and I've been like obsessing over this boy who I feel sooo connected with. We totally love the same things and get on well and he's told me before that he thinks I'm fit and I think he is fit. BUT he doesn't want to go out with me. I didnt mind too much until he stopped hanging out with me and stopped talking to me and now I've ended up getting cross at him. How can I salvage our friendship?? I still have feelings for him!annon.. Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Sarah, writes (18 February 2005): Dear Annon, I know what you are going through.I went through that just before my school was released for the Christmas holidays.I became attracted to my friend's ex,and she told him.Next thing I know,he's telling me,"Sarah,don't talk to me.You freak me out."I was CRUSHED!!! But when we came back two weeks later,he had forgotten all about it and was talking to me once more.However,he still doesn't really seem interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with me,even though I am TOTALLY interested in pursuing one with him...but we are still friends and we danced together at our school Valentine's dance. My point is that it is going to blow over.Just don't say anything more about it to the guy,and he'll forget all about it.The two o you will be friends once more!!!Good luck!Sarah
A reader, Lateema, writes (17 February 2005): I understand where you are coming from. i'm 17 and went through that twice, Feelings will always pass, but it is up to you to stay strong. You are only 15 you have your whole life ahead of you, boys come and go but remember you still have you. Finsh school and get yourslf together, and him come to you. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (17 February 2005):
 It may simply be the case that he isn't grown up enough to handle going out with you and now he is running a bit scared.You need to ask him what is on his mind and whether he would still like to be friends with no strings attached.It could well be that he just can't handle how he feels so you need to give him time and space.Whilst you are doing this, hang around with your friends and let him get on with it.He may come round eventually but if he doesn't, just realise that he simply wasn't mature enough for you. Have fun with your friends and if he continues to ignore you, just try to shrug it off. At the end of the day, it is his loss!Good luck.
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