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writes:Can time realy healI met this guy on line Jan 08 shortly after joing a chat site. We became friends instantly as we had a lot in common. About 4 month into the friendship he met another girl that he almost instantly fell for. As there relationship grew she became gealous of his other friendships so we started talking less soon it was only on occasion.I had a pretty amazing year dated alot learned alot about what I wanted in my next relationship. At the beginning of December I contacted him to wish him a happy holiday season, he replied and we talked and he told me that the relationship did not work out. He never got to meet the girl she kept making promices and never following thru she always had good excuses (child in hosp ect). We started talking as friends again and in 2 or 3 weeks he asked for my number. He called and we really connected on the phone. We talked daily after a few more weeks he broke down and told me that he still could not get his mind of the other girl cause he never understood why. He said that he didnt want to hurt me and needed to get his head straight. I told him that as a friend I would be there to talk if he wanted and that if in the future she became the woman that he needed and he wanted to try again I would understand and be happy for him. We continued to talk and get closer I had vacation coming up and had plans to head west, as I have been the other 3 directions. It happens he lives west so he mentioned on my trip that I might stop and meet him. Still we continued to talk, sometime multiple times a day. We talked about everything what we both wanted in relationships that we both new we where not ready to take that step, now we did not discuss these things as potential gf/bf would, just between 2 friends.So I planed my vacation the last week of February and I did head west, about a week before I left the ex text him while we were taking asking for a second chance. He said he told her know it was over I asked him if he was sure and he said yes, why would he ever want to go there again when he had an amazing woman that had given him more in the last few months than she ever could. So the trip was amazing, we where very compatable, he was very attentive, took me to all the places we had discussed on the phone. When I was leaving he held me so dearly and told me that I was more than he could have ever imagined or hoped for. The 16 hour trip home we stayed on the phone. The first week home I became sick and he stayed in contact The second week home I was hospitalized and we stayed in contact. The next week out of hospital things where great. Then the next week he went into the hospital didnt hear from him for 4 days. Then when he got out we talked 1 day and he had to fly out for business didnt hear from her for 2 days. Then the next 3 or 4 days was great then his daughter had to go in hospital no phone call then he had to have dental surgery no phone call. I started to think he wasnt that I was getting played the same way his girlfriend played him. Stupid??? So while he was going thru his dental stuff he would ot call but would get short text sometime so I just wrote him and asked him if he was trying to distance himself or if possible she had come back and he had changed his mind.His reply was no not back with her nothing has changed just going through a lot of S**t write now and dont have time for this. So i stopped calling text a couple of times with no response. This has been 10 days now....Dont want to push him further but dont want to give up either? any clue from someone who is clueless and hurt
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reader, Rebelobsession +, writes (31 March 2009):
Rebelobsession is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust really would like to know because we had such a deep connection not sexual more of a soulmate connection. If I back away and he is hurting and needs someone will it do more damage than If I remind him that I am here for him.
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reader, Rebelobsession +, writes (28 March 2009):
Rebelobsession is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst I want to thank star for the response. And I wanted to add that I got a message from my frind today. His daughter is out of the hospital and doing well. He wanted to let me know that she was doing well and hoped that I too was doing ok. Said he just realy wanted to get his life back to normal.
So I will just give it time see if we can go back to being friends once he gets everything he needs figured out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): not clueless and hurt - clued (is that a word?) and um not hurt.
Think you should give one more text. Saying hi hope you are ok.
and leave it walk away... he isnt interested... Please see these posts from earlier today (sorry i am forcing you to jump links) i am just finding today seems to be day about it...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-move-on-after-breaking-up.html
and
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-you-know-when-youve-ruined-a-friendship.html
hope it helps...
Star.x.
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