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writes:I met up with a guy i use to go to school with in February of this year. He was so loving and did everything he could for me. He txt several times a day and rang until the beginning of May. I was on a night out with friends and at the start of the night i hurt my ankle and tore ligaments in my ankle which made my ankle swell and i couldnt walk and was in alot of pain. He picked me up tht night and was in a funny mood and kept saying he was tired as i was in so much pain i told him to go home. he went in a huff and didnt speak or ring me for a week. When he eventually got intouch he said i had spoilt things between us but continued to see each other and txt/ring but he wasnt as caring and started putting me down alot. After afew weeks i brought this up and he said we was never in a relationship and started winding me up about seeing other people etc and just wanted me as a sleeping partner. I accepted this as i had already fallen for him and he continued to ring and txt and be fine sometimes and then offhand with me. This has been going on until Sunday just gone. I was out with a friend who knows his mutual friend and my friend was told that he really liked me but as he had been hurt bad in the past he felt this is the reason why he has been treating me so bad as he wont let his barriers down. The guy i was seeing has found out about the conversation which i was not party to and said he no longer wants anything to do with me as he is a private person and has nothing to do with anything else or my friend. I tried to explain it was his friend that brought up the conversation with my friend and asked him why he was being like he was one minute nice and then not his response was he told me he didnt want a relationship, but at the start he said he did and thats why i saw him and grew to fall for him. I spoke to him yesterday and he apologised for hurting me so much as that was the last thing he wanted to do but felt it was best we no longer see each other or keep incontact. I am gutted as i know deep down he really likes me but seems to hold back. I made the mistake of txxting him asking whether we could see each other as sleeping partners and he hasnt responded. Can anyone givve me any advice as i am gutted. I dont want to push him away bothering him but also dont want him to think i dont care. Reply to this Question
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reader, crmcorn65  +, writes (6 June 2009):
Get rid of him!! There are plenty of other guys that would treat you like a queen-why degrade yourself by sleeping with him? If you really want a 'friends with benefits relationship' with someone, then at least find someone who would really be a friend and not a jackass! The way he's treating you is how an abuser treats women, and it only gets worse-lose the jerk now!
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