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writes:heyim in the athletics team at school, and theres this other boy from a different school that i see at the matches.hes really cute, and ive met him and we've chatted a few times. the thing is, i really like him, from what iuve seen, and i think (?) he likes me too, but at the moment im, suffering from self consciousness and i feel ugly all the time. its a weird feeling- im told im pretty, but everything adds up and i notice people not knowing what to say when we're all having a good moan about ourselves, and though it could mean nothing, im really unsure. i dont want to like this boy and him think im awful or anything... what should i do?xx Reply to this Question
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 You'd be surprised, but I'm sure just about every other girl you know is secretly having the same thoughts you are. Everybody has self esteem issues, and I'm sure a lot of women on this site here can back me up on this as well. Even a women that you probably think is very pretty suffers from the same thing.
What you have to do is just try to put your doubts aside. After chatting with him a few times it seems like you have a pretty good idea that he likes you. Does he have a crush on you? He may or he may not, but this isn't a problem only you face. This is the life of dating and relationships. You never truly know what the other person is thinking, you just have to take a leap of faith and go for it. Yes, he may say no. But that doesn't mean because he thinks your ugly or anything, it just may mean you're not his type or he may be just as nervous or have self esteem issues himself. Or, he may say yes and you'll be glad you did it.
My advice is to keep things pressure free. Next time your talking to him, just slip in something like "Do you want to hang out together sometime, or get some lunch?". You don't have to make it a huge, high pressure situation asking him to be your boyfriend or anything.
We've all been in that situation at one time or another. Put your self esteem aside and go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Hey look at it this way, what have you got to loose, you can only gain. If he likes you for who you are inside it's even better. This way you'll at least know he's a good guy. I say go for it :)
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