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Angels1have1wings
writes:Okay I know many people have put down a story about the first time they had sex, but I never see anyone putting down what happened to me on my first time.I didn't have sex untill i reached university (the 2nd day of university to tell the truth) and it wasn't because i wasn't ready till then. If i'm honest i was ready well before then, it was just that i had that general notion of wanting it to be perfect or wanting to have the ideal boy to do it with. However, such a set back left me horney as anything and i just wanted to get it over and done with (not that i'm suggesting that everyone who thinks what i did was wrong or that sex is somthing to be rushed into when you get to a point in your life). Anyway, I moved into my corridor with 14 other people and on the first night i meet everyone. It was very quickly that i got attached to a guy who's room was across from me. I fancied him almost straight away and i remember at one ponit he was talking to me and i was just dying for him to kiss me. To be honest i was a bit ashamed, it had been two days and already i was startng to sink my claws into a guy. After a while we ended up talking in his room. On reflection i picked the worst night to let this happen. I was wearing the baggiest sweat pants ever, my hair was scraped back into a pony-tail that did not flatter me at all and my legs really needed a shave. On top of that i had just finished my monthly cycle and was still wearing a period pad and rather big nickers; Not the most sexiest of outfits to suduce a guy.During somepoint of the night, he admitted that he liked me and to which my response was "so when are you going to kiss me then?". From that point on things moved a little fast and from the signs he was giving, i could tell where this was going. After breaking from the snog, i asked him if he had any protection to which he said NO. Now i'd like to point out here that i had no idea what the hell was going through my mind at the time, because i said to him "oh, that's okay, just pull out when the time comes".First of all, Never do what i did, I made a big risk by doing that, a number of problems could have occured afterwards. If you are having sex for god sake use a condom.... Espically if it is your first time, DON'T do what i did. So once the sweat pants and large nickers were removed the time came. The problem was though, to save embarassment, i told everyone that i had previously had sex before so this guy had no clue about how scared i was.I thought i was going to get away with untill i felt the most pain i had felt in a while. I had no idea sex would hurt that much (oh just like to say it's not the same for everyone, for some people it doesn't hurt). At that point i told him to stop and did the most pathetic thing of curling up and crying admitting to him everything, confessing that i was a virgin.Thankfully he was very understanding and was more concerned by the fact i did not tell him sooner. After a talk we got back to it; working slowly he managed to calm me, but i was all to aware about the lack of protection and the fact that i didn't want to go through with it untill we did and plus i was still in pain and wanted to leave. After telling him to stop he did and i ran out of the room only to not speak to him for a few days.After a while i started talking to him again and we started dating. When the time came again we did have protection and i felt ready for it. I guess i was lucky enough to find a guy who was understanding.My point of this whole thing i guess is, 1.) if it is your first time MAKE SURE YOU ARE PROTECTED! 2.) don't be afraid to tell the guy this is your first time. You'll find that if they know that, then things will be a lot easier for you. 3.) DON'T BE AFRAID TO SAY STOP AT ANY POINT! i had to stress that point. At the end of the day it's you who's going through this, not your mates (if you are pressured into doing it) and not the boy, it's you and only you can decide if you want to continue. There is no shame in stopping somthing that makes you uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Great post. It really points out the problems of the first time. We all know the first time can be painful, embarrasing and downright confusing. But nobody tells, because otherwise noone would ever have sex. I was so uptight my first time, it wouldn't go in and my boyfriend started bleeding. I was dead embarrased, I thought I had broken him and made an appointment with my doctor thinking that something was terribly wrong with me. We didn't know anything about proper foreplay and arousal.I also had problems with the desire to have sex. I'd been brought up thinking that sex was something you had to do, but nobody told me that I would get hungry and want to have sex. I thought sex was just an extension of cuddling. Wow was I in for a shock. I never knew people could suffer such sexual hunger. Luckily I was able to wait for the right person, and lose my virginity in a stable and loving relationship. Love's great, but it still took him three years to find that little spot that could send me wild. I'd love to see a film, showing it like it really is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I'm glad to know that there are some understanding guys out there . Most boys in highschool now are only after one thing and if you can't give it to them then they don't want u . But I guess this shows that, that isn't always the case .
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