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writes:hilast night i had a dream i was having lesbian sex with a stunning blonde girl, and lately i have also been masturbating to lesbian porn. im a girl and have a boyfriend who i love been with him for years and im definatly sure of my sexuality, im 100% straight and only ever have sexual and love feelings towards men i have never fancied a girl and never will. its just i like watching lesbian porn because it turns me on, im also into men gay porn too. is this normal? and i know im not a lesbian but do you think that this makes me a lesbian?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): hello i had the same problame as you but i know im straight but there is just somthingabout lesbain porn that gets me turned on but i no im straight so i wouldnt worry about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): No, this in itself does not make you a lesbian. In fact, a scientific study was done on women's arousal that indicated that women show physical signs of sexual arousal in response to a wider range of sexual images than men, which theoretically would include images of lesbian sex. You would likely want to label yourself lesbian if over time you found you were attracted to women in the flesh and if you desired your intimate love and dating/affectionate relationships to be primarily with these other women rather than with men.
Also, it might help you look up something called the "kinsey scale" and also the "Kinsey sexual orientation grid". These days, especially among scholars/academics and in the LGBTQ community, sexuality is seen more of a continuum-- that is, few people are 100% straight or 100% gay (a 1 or 6 on the scale, respectively). Rather, people are same-sex attracted in different ways and to different degrees at various points in their life, and these things shift and change. No matter what you discover, you are perfectly normal. I'd say you are questioning your sexual orientation-- do some research, watch some movies, find out how you feel.
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 I seriously doubt this makes you a lesbian. It sounds more like an exploration of curiosity than a concrete personality trait. I wouldn't freak over too much. You'll probably find it's just a phase in your own sexual maturation. I went through the same but I was in my 30s at the time and took the curiosity a little further than porn. No big deal, use it to learn about you. You have no moral obligation to confess nor disclose this to anyone but yourself. No harm, no foul. Carry on and fight the good fight!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): I have to say, I think as you are boeing turned on by watching same sex, sex you would be turned on by same sex, sex yourself, nothing wrong with that. if u get the chance try it and then you'll know for sure. I'd say if u might the right woman you could have a same sex relationship but as you're not in a position to do so right now what's the point in agonising over it. keep watching the porn.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 April 2010):
 No, it doesn't automatically make you a lesbian, what it makes you is curious.
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reader, single gal  +, writes (29 April 2010):
nothing makes you gay unless you trully are gay. if you are sure you are not gay, then you are probably just curious of other ways of having sex. dont worry about it
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reader, TimmD +, writes (29 April 2010):
 No, it doesn't mean you are a lesbian. If anything, you could be in the "bi-curious" category. If you and your boyfriend are happy sexually, then there's nothing wrong with watching either gay or lesbian porn on your end.
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