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writes:Wonder if theres anyone that can help me that understands about Transvestism/crossdressers/transgendered/gender physphoria. I have tried to do so much research regarding the subject as my partner told me a year ago that wearing womens clothes is something he felt he wanted to do from about the age of 7. Hes tried to erradciate the feelings since he told me about this and hasnt dressed, but the feelings, urges and dresire does not go away.He has started to open up to me alot more recently. Now i am concerned that it could be a deeper issue than a man who just wants to get dressed up every now and again. The way he describes how he feels is, it is a sexual thing for him in that it does turn him on when dressed, but not just that, also it makes him feel confortable and feels great. I am concerned as i have read so many stories about couples who are married their man then later decides he wants to become a women and transitions. this is my worry. My parther said the way he feels he is both male and female. Sometime more of one than he other, then visa versa. or both at the same time. Most mornings, not all but most, when he first wakes, before he has really had a chance to think, he will feel he is female. He will look at his hairs and arms on his legs and hate them and want to shave them off. But as he is up and about the feelings will ware off then he is fine as a man. But he will get waves of feelings thoughout the day. Sometimes just thoughts, then other times strong urges. Does this sound as though it is more serious then just a transvesite who will want to dress from time to time? Im worried for the future. I havent any children yet but im not getting any younger and if im going to have them, need to in the next couple of years. Just dont know what the best thing is to do???? He is 36 years old now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): He is only attracted to women. Has no intrest in men. The thing is he said he doesnt always feel he is female, he feels masculine at times, then other times feels femanine. so he doesnt exactly feel trapped in the wrong body as such. he will get strong urges sometimes where he feels he wants to female but not constantly. He has never had a problem with his genitailier either, where i think most transexuals are not happy with their parts. I dont know whether there is a need to be very concerned. How can someone feel they are male and female at different times?
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Yes from what I understand there is a difference between a man who just likes to dress up in womens clothes and a man that feels like a woman trapped inside a mans body.
What that means for your future I couldn't tell you, but you are right to be concerned that he might one day decide he is tired of living a lie. Is he also attracted to men?
Some men have gotten a sex change male to female but still only want to date other women. It can get very confusing, for them and the people that love them. Total honesty is the way to go. If he will open up to you.
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