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writes:Okay, well me and this guy got together over a year ago, He wasn't a virgin, he lost his virginity to a slightly over weight girl. which I didn't mind at first. I was a virgin but later in our relationship I lost my virginity to him. I'm not perfect, I'm a little chunky, not over weight but very upset about my weight. As a little girl I was teased and called fat, my sisters have called me fat, and for a while I had an eating disorder because gaining weight scared me. Well, seven months into our relation ship he cheated on me with an over weight girl, and I forgave him and tried to forget it. Then we broke up and he had sex with two other over weight girls. We got back together and again I let it go. The last time we broke up he had sex with an over weight girl and a girl about my size. We are back together, but I don't know if he keeps leaving because I'm not big enough, or if he comes back because I'm what he wants. I can't help feeling fat now even though he always tells me I'm skinny and beautiful, It's hard to beleve. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): skinny doesnt mean beautiful. You can b beautiful no matter how big or small u are hunny. Ur placing alot of importance on size and it sounds to me like ur trying to blame urself for him cheating on you! .His cheating has nothing to do with anyones weight. Not yours and not the girls hes cheated on u with. The problem is him and the fact that he's greedy and also you, because he knows u will let him get away with it because ur taking him back. Tell him to take a hike and that ur worth more than the way he treats u, then go find urself a nice guy, or wait because ur only young uv got all the time in the world for that. DONT let him walk all over u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): No, it doesn't mean you're fat but what it does mean is your boyfriend is an ass. He cheated on you on numerous occassions, dump him and find somebody who knows what a real relationship is.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 October 2010):
 How many times have you guys broke up now? He cheats on you 7 months into the relationship then, breaks up with you when he wants to have sex with overweight girls. It's possible that he likes his girls on the bigger side, and you don't sound like you're big enough for him. So, no I wouldn't call you fat, in fact you sound skinny to me.
Truthfully, I would break up with this guy because he's giving you a complex and adding to your insecurities. And the fact that he keeps dumping you then you keep taking him back every time. This relationship isn't healthy, I'd let it go if I were you.
P.S. Most women are insecure about their weight, it doesn't stop at your teenage years..so you're not alone on that one.
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