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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My question is about a really lovely guy whom I'm not sure likes me. I recently moved into a block of flats and one morning, walking out the main entrance, I morning, walking out the main entrance, I turned to notice a very attractive guy walking behind me, whom it turns out lives two floors above. Completely flustered (as I am no good at approaching men) I tried to think of the first thing that came into to think of the first thing that came into my head to speak to him, which was 'I've just moved in, o you know what day the bin men come?' to which he replied 'Wednesday, have a good day'. Feeling really stupid at my attempt at a chat-up line, I bumped into him on the way into our block a week later and he asked me how I was settling in and introduced himself. I was so excited that he spoke to me I just replied with my name, and said goodbye. A couple of weeks later, whilst off, a delivery man rang my bell to ask if I would sign for a parcel on someone elses behalf as they were out, and I did. When I looked as they were out, and I did. When I looked at the name on it, it was the name of the guy who had introduced himself to me note was pushed under my door from to collect it. I called and he came down mentioned he wasn't expecting it, said mentioned he wasn't expecting it, said thanks and went. My friend later suggested I follow things up by asking to borrow a screwdriver as an excuse to speak to him again. So I texted his number to ask if he had one to save me a trip to a hardware shop and he replied that he had and would bring it around the next day as he was wouldn't be back until late that night. He already knew my name from our previous meeting and had texted my name correctly twice but then the next day he texted me to say he was going out shortly and was I in so he could drop the tool off. However, he texted the wrong name which made me think that he was hinting to me that either he wasn't interested or was trying to fob me off. Anyway he came down to me and quickly gave a demo at my door of the different sized heads on the screwdriver and how to turn it and said to bring it back whenever The next day I texted offering to drop it off to him as I had finished with it and he said he would come and get it on his way in as he was out again, but again, got my name he was out again, but again, got my name wrong! I corrected him and he replied saying that he was sorry, but had been working with a girl all week with that name(Jenny). I jokingly replied that he had Jenny on the brain and when he did arrive, he looked quite serious, and apologised mmediately for getting my name wrong, immediately for getting my name wrong, even though he knew my name and had texted it about 4 times before! We made knowing what to say, then he stood for a few moments - I felt a bit awkward - and then he just said 'well if you ever need to borrow it again then let me know' and' and walked off, and I replied with something cringey and embarassing related to the screwdriver i.e. yes, I need more practice(cringe). My friends said I should have asked him in for a drink but I think he was just being a friendly neighbour. Seeing as he got my name wrong he can't be that bothered can he? I'm too scared of rejection and asking him in for a cup of tea seemed like a weird thing to do as I might have got it wrong. So, does he like me or not? If so, have I blown it? [Mod note: original post was filled with duplicated words and phrases, if it was incorrectly edited, apologies to the OP.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): aww ur so cutee I can totally picture you!!
Try to always dress pretty and stuff when you are around the building!... let some time pass (2 weeks or 3) and then ask him help to fix something..or rather, text him like "hey this is X... My drain clogged and I wondered if you knew a good fair plumber who will ccharge me right price?" or something like that or if he comes and fixes something for you, tell him you want to pay him, if he refuses tell him youa t least want to invite him some tea or a water or something! and then chat..if after this he doesnt fall..then play the cold shoulder...always dress provocatively when you are around him, but give him the cold shoulder..if he asks tell him you have been out with friends, or something that makes you seem like an interesting woman, always portray yourself as an interesting woman ALWAYS
Ps. read The Rules is a great book!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I think you might be coming on a bit to strong and he can sense that. He probably noticed that you where nervous and flustered around him and he probably doesn't know how to handle it. It probably wouldn't have been a bad idea to ask him in for a cup of tea just to see how it would have went. I think though that he is so far just showing that he is a friendly neighbour and maybe he knows deep down you only asked him for a screwdriver so you could see him.
I think you need to lay off a bit though. If you see him talk to him say hello and be friendly. But take your time and see how it goes. Allow him to approach you some of the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): Personally I think you are coming across too eager. He has your name and number and he'll use it if he wants to ask you out. So far he doesn't seem interested and he does know you are so I would leave it up to him to reciprocate.
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