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writes:I need to get on my teacher's good side fast, I can't afford any bad marks this school year. Anyways, I have this very confusing teacher. First off, he makes fun of me a lot, like when he tells the class he doesn't think of us as "retards".. then he says, "except for her" (implying me). He also put me in the front of the room, i guess to keep me focused. But then he'll turn around and act really nice and caring. Like yesterday, he saw that i seemed upset and he kept asking me what was wrong. He also said that if i wanted to talk about it, he would be there to listen. Then today he asked me if i was feeling better. So what do you think?.. is he just doing his job and trying to help me out, or does he actually like me as a student. Because if he doesn't, then i'll have to make some adjustments fast lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): erm... i dnt think it is okay for a teacher to hug u - i would expect if a student was goin to hug a student - for them to say no so and so its innappropratie, it doesnt make him alid bk it makes him werid if he like hugs from teenage girls
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): No, he doesn't hate you or anyone else. But I'm wondering why you feel you have to get on his good side fast in order to gain good marks? That's pretty manipulative on your part, isn't it? Stop focusing on this teacher and let him do his job. Can you not just study harder and earn those 'good' marks on your own merit and intellect? It's not a new concept is it...you work harder and your efforts pay off..That's what life is all about. Better learn that there isn't any free rides out there. Something to learn before you hit adulthood, dear..plain and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. He's a nice guy, so I want to make sure I have his good side, but according to these answers, I already do:] I don't think he is a petafile or anything. He doesn't touch his students or anything, but if they like grab his arm or go to hug him, he has NO problem with it what so ever.... that just makes him laidback and friendly, nothing else right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): It sounds like he likes you rather than hates you. He puts you up front where he can see you and you can see him, putting you first in front of all the others; he has teased you publicly either to show a lack of interest to others cos he knows it's wrong, or because of the age-old story that people tease people they like. Maybe he wanted to see what your reaction was. He could have just been being ironic or silly but implying you're a retard isn't the norm for teasing students. In private he shows that he is infact caring. He likes you, quite clearly. If he acts distastefully upon it, tell someone but don't go out of your way to make things easier for him.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 As an ex high school teacher I would advise the following.
This sounds relatively harmless, he has a wicked sense of humour that is perhaps a bit adult for you young years. Heavy use of sarcasm and irony is often not picked up by teens.
The only thing I am slightly concerned about is his obvious favourtism towards you. I never did this myself, though it is hard not to like certain students , but it is the teacher's responsibility to treat everyone the same.
If he is making you uncomfortable by all means talk to him, he sounds like a rational person and I'm sure he wont be offended. If he is take it to your class teacher or the Principal.
You havent mentioned he touches you ( even in a friendly way ) so I dont see any fears about him being interested sexually. But if he does become over friendly tell your parents immediately.
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