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writes:I know this site is filled with people wanting their fwb/ fuck buddy to be something more but mine has started telling me I need to open up to him more and trying to get me to admit I have a crush on him.Is this him trying to have a relationship or just wanting more power in the relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2018): Ask him right now point blank if he'd like to be in a committed relationship with you. If he says yes, then ask yourself if, apart from the sex, he's the kind of guy you'd want as a bf. I'd question that since he has been able to devalue you as a person by using you for sex. Either way, be prepared for lies since he might lie to you because he wants the sex to keep coming. You have to decide if this sex only relationship is enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2018): From a man's point of view, odds are most females in a FWB relationship catch feelings; or want more than they're letting-on. It's only a matter of time.
He may not necessarily want a "relationship;" but could be curious about your true-feelings. My other guess is that knowing you feel something for him might sweeten the pot; it would boost his ego to know he can stir real feelings in you. Even if he himself isn't quite there yet.
Men aren't all totally detached from sex. Yes, we can have sex for years with a person; and want nothing else to do with them. Not many women are like that. There are a lot of fakes. Men and women don't think alike, and we don't process our emotions the same way. He's testing the waters before he decides to start dating; because that's when you find-out whether feelings lie behind the sex. Somebody gets jealous and the drama begins.
A woman can be a strong woman without trying to be like a man. True feminism and power is a woman being a woman; while breaking the barriers, overcoming oppression, and removing the hypocritical double-standards set by backwards society. It isn't mimicking all the worst traits exhibited by males. Particularly promiscuity, detached-sex, and objectifying human beings like they're objects to be used and tossed aside. Women are taking on these poor masculine character-flaws; but these are the very traits they hate most in men! Go figure!
Well, do you have a crush? If he starts dating somebody else, you'll be busted if it makes you jealous! It might be a good idea to get ready; there might be another woman who is a romantic-interest.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 December 2018):
 Ask him straight out, ARE you looking to date me?
But only IF you want to date him. So make up your mind first, then ASK him.
What do you have to lose? A "FWB"? Not really a great loss if it ends, is it?
It's impossible to tell if he is hoping to have some sort of upper hand here or he is trying to hint at wanting to get to know you better because he wants to date you.
If you can FUCK him (pardon the blunt expression) then you can TALK to him.
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