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writes: Does my fiance care about me? Last night I asked him if he could give me a back rub and then I said I would give him one. He got mad and said no because he had to work all day, and that I should be giving him one only. I worked too! Then, this morning I called in sick to work because I wasn't feeling well and he got mad and said I should go because when he was sick a few days earlier he worked (he owns his own business). I made him tea when he was sick, and he did nothing for me, just said that he needed to have sex and wouldn't leave me alone. It doesn't seem like he cares. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Oh my goodness!! U must not marry this man, he is not the type of person you deserve. Please go and read a copy of the book called "the rules". it has changed my life. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): Dear: Read about emotionally and or verbally abusive men and or relationships and see yourself in a mirror. Don't marry him. You'll never be happy. Find help to stop dating the same abusive men. It's a pattern some of us have. But you can stop it.
I'm trying to find this book: The Emotionally Unavailable Man: A Blueprint for Healing by Patti Henry. It's supposed to be great on the subject.
You are still on time. Run for your life!!
I hope you read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): Oh my. He is being very mean to you. He kind of reminds me of this boyfriend I used to have. Anyway towards the end of our relationship his true colors really came out and he acted alot like your bf. He would try to have sex with me when I wasn't feeling good. And would criticize me or get irritated with me about stuff that really was none of his business. Stuff that he should have been loving and sensitive about. Like missing school. And lashing out at me if I asked for something. Exactly what you are going through.
Well it sounds to me like he is very irritated with you (this is not your fault, he should know how to behave himself in the face of adversity). But some of his passion and some of the respect and adulation he had for you is gone. Certainly that is a problem. Especially since you two are planning on getting married.
But even so, he should know how to behave himself more tactfully. So this guy is just showing you his true colors. Most guys don't act this way even if they fall out of love. Your boyfriend is showing himself to be a totally insensitive jerk. Now that you know what he is really like you really have to consider whether you want to marry him. I know for a fact that you can do SOOO much better. And I know because I have been in your shoes and have had much nicer boyfriends since that jerk I dated.
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