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writes:My bf is looking for a new job so, most probably he'll be moving to another city. He was really upset (since he just lost his job and also his ex who works with him isn't really friends with him anymore) and asked me if I would remain friends with him even if we (hypothetically) break up for some reason in the future. Like if I fail to move to his city eventually or so. I asked him if he wanted to have a gf in the same city as him and he was like "that's what people generally want, not that everyone want it". But then later when I was really sad and crying he told me that he doesn't wanna break up with me and would have long-distance relationship. But I'm not really convinced!What should I conclude from that? I really love him and for me although long distance would definitely be difficult, my love is lot stronger than to break up for such a lame reason as distance! I don't think that he loves me as much as I do! :-( What do you guys think? Do men need gfs in the same city just to get physical? Can't they fall in real love? :'-(P.S: We have been dating for almost 9 months now!
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reader, Black diamond20 +, writes (12 August 2010):
Well from the loos of things he still wants to be with you he's probably afraid of you breaking up with him but its benn only 9 months and your feelings are really strong try to visit him as much as possible try not to argue its going to be some insucurity going on but dont let that get in the way talk to him as much as possible keep things cool you dont want to give him any reason to cheat or break up with you cause if that time comes he'll blame you for his wrong doing so trust him and be cool ok..ps ..hope you feel better!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Long distance can be good too, its important to keep up contact. He has told you he doesnt want to break up so take it as that.
Long distance requires trust on both sides and you should make a point to visit when you can or visa versa.
9 months is enough to know your feelings for him if they are weak use the oppertunity to move on, if they are more strong then stick with it and see where it takes you.
Hope it works out for you.
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (12 August 2010):
 I got a different feeling from what you say he said.... to me it sounded like a couched way of saying he wants you to move with him, not that he wants a new girlfriend.
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