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writes: i really need advice! does he just want sex? or a relationship?i have been seeing a guy for about 4weeks. im 19 and he is 26. and we live on the same street so i often pop round his in the evening and chill. i really, really like him. and he says he feels the same. and acts as if he genuinely feels the same way too. but there are a few problems:1) we only see each other in the evenings and usually end up having sex.2) he doesn't take me out 2 dinner/cinema (but he is tight with money atm as he's just lost his job, so i understand).3) i think we've only done something together once during the day (when i questioned him about this he made up some silly excuse of me being at college every day and him working. but surely if you like someone, you can Make time for them, right??)4) he hasn't introduced me to his mates (when i questioned this, he told me that because all his friends are guys and generally all get together to watch football, it might be a bit awkward for me being the only girl)on the plus side, he messages me things like, 'i miss u', and always wants me to stay longer when i have to go home, and he is genuinely worried that im going to start seeing other guys.but sometimes he doesnt call for a few days, and the realisation hits me, that he probably just sees me as a convenient bootycall.we get along REALLY well and i really like him a lot. we just really enjoy each others company and talk/laugh about everything.do you think he might start wanting a proper relationship? he says he wants to take things slow and see where things go. we haven't known each other that long so maybe im being a bit Hasty and it will develop into a relationship.....or am i just being a fool and he is clearly just using me for sex?i will leave him if nothing changes but what i really want is for us to be proper boy/girl friend.im so confused!!!!i know i should never have rushed into sex so soon! but whats done is done and i guess i just want to know if ive got a chance to be his girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Wow. Sounds like the guy I was just seeing I guess. I met him through friends and I would come over and have sex at his house. He said he wanted to take things slow. We never did anything together. He use to write I miss you on my text. Then he would go for days not texting or calling. We would have sex maybe every week or two weeks. This has been going on for a couple of months. When I went over I finally told him lets go out to dinner or something. Then he freeked out calling me pysco and every other name in the book. Now we hate each other. Stay away this guy is a complete player..You situation is exactly how my situtation started. Oh i forgot this guy just lost his job too. And before he lost his job he was tight with his money as well.
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Been there done that. Hate to be harsh but you are a booty call to him. Why would he shell out money for dinner when he's getting it for free.
He's hasn't introduce you to his friends cause you are not "The one". He wants to keep his options open.
Of course he's going to say he miss you..ect. he doesn't want to lose you cause you give him sex. You say you haven't known each other that long so i say stop with the sex if you want a serious relationship. I don't know if it's too late. i've learned that you got to get the serious relationship first, then the sex.
The minute the sex happens, girls can kiss having a relationship goodbye.
You will know where you stand after you stop having sex with him. if he wants you for a girlfriend he will make it known. If not, then you know you were a booty call.best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand id love a guys opinion
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