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writes:I ran into this guy I dated for a little while tonight. I was crushed by the break because we were looking for different things and I got too emotionally involved too soon. Anyway, when I see him he's cordial and asks how I am, I respond casually but make no effort to prolong the conversation (I'm kind of embarrassed by my behavior before, I may have been a little clingy)He makes an effort to talk to me and always asks if I'm joining the group that evening (which I'm usually not and I wonder why he asks every time, maybe because he wants to eventually be friends). I've noticed him looking my way a few times, and sometimes when I look up I make eye contact with him but then I turn around to avoid any awkwardness. Tonight we got to talk a little more than usual and I noticed him looking at me when our other friends were talking to us. I just wonder if he ever thinks about me like he used to. Not that anyone would know the answer to this as they don't know him but I still wonder. I guess I'm still hung up on him even after a couple of months.
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reader, Bleudancer +, writes (3 December 2010):
Bleudancer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, you are both spot on. I wish I could stop running into him. We share some mutual friends and it's difficult to avoid him. I will try to keep it up and forget about him as best as I can. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): You have done so well on the surface to look as if you are over him. But deep down you're not yet. Every small glance triggers a question in your mind that he is still interested. The danger is that it will stop you putting this behind you. Try not to go where he goes for now. You are doing all the right things by being friendly but brief when you see him. But 'what ifs' and 'maybes' will just drive you mad. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): "I guess I'm still hung up on him even after a couple of months."
You know what this is, you know EXACTLY what this is. You also know that it doesn't matter whether he's thinking about you or not. You broke up, that was the end of it. You got hurt and you should be doing what you can to move on.
Seriously you're only looking for signs of interest because you're still into him, you also know that nothing can or should happen with him again. It hurt the first time it will be even worse the second time.
Friends is not possible while you still have feelings for him, stay away from him for a while longer until you have moved on, It's not nice to feel this way and the more you keep in contact with him the longer your feelings will stay with you. You know it's just not going to work for you two, so you need to forget about all this and move on. It will do you no good to try ad build up a friendship with him now because it will just give you false hope and you'll just get very hurt again.
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