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writes:I don't know if all is lost in this situation or not. I met a "boy" and we became friends. I was pretty sure he liked me as more than a friend(due to flirtatious behavior and such) so I brought up the inevitable, "are you interested in me?" conversation. He said he was interested, but we couldn't date due to an ex of mine being a good friend of his. I know, that's a lame excuse.So we continue our friendship. He texts me one night and asks what I'm up to, I suggest we get together and hang out at a bar. We do. Then a few of his friends show up and my ex(he didn't stay long), but it's a laid back sort of evening. He then asks me if I slept with the ex the night before(which I had, but this is an even longer story if I explain that) and I told him I did and explained what happened. Then a guy we don't know comes to our table and starts hitting on the "boy"'s friend's girlfriend. Then, when he realizes he's not getting anywhere, starts hitting on me, but first asks the "boy" if he's my boyfriend or interested in pursuing me as more than a friend. He says, "No. We're just friends." The rest of the evening plays out and I go home. The "boy" texts me and we chat about the evening. He apologizes for leaving me with the guy that was hitting on me and tells me that everything he said to that guy wasn't true. I didn't respond because I didn't know what to say.The friendship continues and I tell him months later that I like him, and he tells me that he doesn't feel it, but even if he did, we're too good of friends and my ex is his good friend, etc., etc., lots of reasons why we can't date. So I think he's over me and I feel dumb for not telling him how I felt sooner, but we're still friends and I still like him so I just kind of let the situation go. I start "talking" to other guys and hanging out with other male friends, which he makes comments about to my girl friends(that guy's not good enough for me, does she like that guy friend as more than a friend?, etc.). This behavior has been going on for months now. I'm thinking that maybe he still likes me, however, he keeps himself at a distance from me and I feel like our friendship has suffered because of it. So here comes the questions. Does he still like me or do I just want him to like me? Did he ever like me or did I just imagine it? If he does(or did), how should I approach him/the situation? Is dating him a lost cause? I really need some impartial advice here since the vast majority of the friends I normally confide in are also friends of his and/or are biased in the matter.Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, they can. :) Thanks for reading and responding!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 April 2009):
 I guess you just keep on doing what you are doing and hope that he'll eventually wake up and smell the coffee. If you bring the subject up to him I think he'll run for cover. Guys can be so irritating can't they?!
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