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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend brkoe up with me about 2 weeks ago. We only went out for 2 months, but this breakup hurt me espeically since it was my first serious relationship after a bad experience. (My ex-boyfriend hit on one of my friends and lied to me when I confronted.)We both stopped talking to each other for about 1 week, but I decided to get over with it and stay as friends. So we hung out 3 days ago supposedly as "friends", but then he started telling me the reasons why he had to break up with me and how much he wants to be with me.And the reasons why we broke up? are actually stupid. He said that he couldn't stand people staring at us like something's wrong only because we're biracial couple. (the neighborhood I live in is very conservative.)He also said that he couldn't show his insecurities to me because he was afraid that I would break up with him and walk away just like his ex-girlfriends.He said sorry and asked me to go back out with me.I really, really, really wanted to say 'yes' right away and hug him, but IDK I couldn't trust him anymore since we broke up once already AND I am starting to forget about this relationship and move on with my life. So I told him that we should give serious considerations before anything happens.On that day, he kept texting me and calling me saying how sorry he is and how much he wants to be with me.But after that day, when I saw him at school (Yes, we have a same class in school.), he just said hi to me and didn't talk to me at all.I mean, if he wants me back, then isn't he supposed to at least try to get me back? Did he just give up on me right away thinking I already moved on?I can't quite put my finger on what this guy is thinking right now. I mean, I definetely don't want him to just play me around and break up with me again. I just texted him today if he wants to hang out next week and he said sure and he will tell me if he's free. I mean we still text each other like we used to so I guess we're still friends?, but the problem is that he doesn't talk to me at all at school.So as much as I still have feeling left for him, I really want to be careful this time if it's right for me to go back out with him.My friends are saying that he's simply in "valentine's day mode" so he just feels lonely for now. And it makes sense2, but I am still not sure.Does he seriously want me back? Or like my friends said, Is he just lonely for now?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Best advise? Tread lightly, but also consider that guys at your age are not as emotionally secure/stable as you are... unfortunately, it's pretty normal. Honestly, there's no telling what's going on in his head when you're in class together... maybe shame?
In any case, it is possible to rekindle your relationship. But, consider all the issues and get satisfactory answers to the issues that broke you up. His excuses (IMO) are either lame or not completely revealing... but like I said, a young man isn't as emotionally mature at this age (assuming he's in the same ballpark you are).
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