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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:This guy and I seemed to hit it off great. He called me often and we would hang out, but didn't know if he liked me more than a friend. The night before my birthday he gave me a ride back to my place and we waited in the car until it was technically my birthday and he kissed me for the first time. After that he came to see me at work the next day. So I was pretty sure he was interested. Now this week, I didn't hear from him at all. I found out that he had a really busy week, so I left him alone. Then Friday night rolled around and still I hadn't gotten a call and I didn't want to be clingy. I texted him and he said he had a bad cold, but would definitely see me tomorrow(last night) at a banquet/dance. He is very touchy, and is always giving me hugs or wrapping his arms around me, so he was like that there when I see him. We danced a few times which was awesome, but since we weren't each others dates he wasn't around the whole time. He was dancing like we do with this one girl, and at the end of the night he just left and didn't say anything to me which made me really upset. So late last night I texted him asking "why do you make me want you then leave" He said he was sorry and would I forgive him. But a friend(who really likes me) said he has been with so many girls blah blah... So i said i wanted to, but thought maybe my friend was right. easier to read:He said "ouch, not acceptable" I said: he gives me reasons I shouldn't,Him: i don't know what to tell you...i'm not trying to mess with you or anything like thatMe: i've been in that position too many times i start to get paranoid its going to happen again. i'm sorry :(him: maybe we should work on establishing trust between us before we try to go with anythingme:i didn't mean to come off sounding like we were something unless you felt the same. i'm probably messing things up with every word i say and i really don't want tohim: i think we should focus on friendship firstme:yeah, i can agree with youhim: ok then...friends first, then you will see me how i really amme: what do you mean how you really are? who have I been getting to know?him: Me, but i just want you to know me and not the version that people like your friend are telling you aboutme: and i'm being completely honest with you that is exactly what i've done up until this point. if i listened to him right off do you think we would be talking?him: good i'm gladDoes he like me and still think we can work out or did I run my mouth and scare him away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): I dont think you're doing anything wrong. I think he just wants to be your friend and get to know you first. Maybe he likes you but see how your friendship plan goes first. love your friend, funky monkey
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