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writes:Hi... I am a 17 year old guy, I am extremely shy... I get very nervous (clammy hands, starting to sweat) when I start talking to girls... There's thoughts in my mind like "I'm gonna mess up" or "What if she doesn't like me?" Are there any tips to get rid of this shyness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): well think happy stuff like "shes goin to like me" or "i cant mess up" and it might work.plus if the girl likes u as u are then porficed coz not all girl like none shy guys.so see how it works. hope it gos ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Hello :) I have really bad shyness too, my first kiss was only about two months ago and i was SO unbelievably nervous!!!! And my main worries are always "oh no...what if im really terrible?" But it's like people used to tell me all the time, you get used to the things you were worried about. I just think to myself- baby steps. First I overcome the nerves about kissing (which honestly gets better, the kissing gets better as well as the nerves!) and then my next step was kissing in front of other people and I'm still working on the rest ;) I just think when the firsts get out of the way then the nerves will leave me and I will get used to it and gradually get more comfortable. The main thing that helps me when I'm starting to freak out is when i focus. I feel myself getting panicky and I'll think "just relax, calm down because being nervous won't help me at all." And I always find taking a minute to go away and re-group helps. And smiling! Not fake, scary smiling but thinking happy thoughts, Just think "I really like this girl, shes so beautiful -smile- I can't wait to kiss her..." etc etc and then you get genuine smiles and I always feel better when i do that and ignore the panic-thoughts because they don't get me anywhere. I really hope I helped, add me or message me if you like :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you know any of the good websites?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (22 August 2007):
You're not alone, heaps of other guys and girls have felt like you once in their life. The good news is, A LOT of them get through it too :) So you won't have to always be like this. There ARE things you can do.
I too am someone who is very shy. There are things you can do to reduce your shyness, yet still stay true to yourself. You dont want to become somoene your not,- like a exstreemly outgoing/overly confident anoying person.
There are HEAPS of self help web sites out there and self help books on shyness. I suggest you read some of them. I found them to help sooooooooo much. good luck :)
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