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writes:I am not sure what is going on here, if anything?My ex broke up with me at the end of last year. I have moments when I feel very bitter about it as I saw us having a real future together. He seems to have no concept of how much it upset me when he split up with me, and he wanted to become good friends the instant we split up. He didn’t cheat on me or anything but I feel very angry towards him. Part of me wants to be good friends, the other part of me wants to go mental at him.I am trying to think along the lines of my friends; that he didn’t use me for sex (we only did it the once in a 3 month relationship) and that he wanted a long term relationship but couldn’t get over his previous relationship despite us making as sure as we possibly could that he was over her. However, I feel like I was used for a fling. I don’t really understand what happened to our relationship, although I heard from his mum that his ex was pestering him even though they haven’t got back together. Anyway, that is not the thing that is really puzzling me. His parents, who I have known since I was born and really get on very very well with (our mothers were friends), seem to be coming over to our house alot more (both planned and on the spur of the moment) and going out places with me, and can’t seem to do enough for me; miles more so now we have split up. Why are they doing this? I can’t decide if my ex has put them up to this to keep an eye on what I am up to, or they are feeling guilty for him dumping me or it is just coincidence? I sometimes think they are trying to catch me out with a man or something!My ex’s Dad and I have a mutual interest that we now spend all our spare time doing, which although I am very happy doing this, I sometimes question the motives behind it because of the timing. I wonder if anything I am chatting to with to my ex’s Dad gets back to him. I never discuss the subject of men with him.The other night I was joking around and I said I would need to find myself a different man to dance the slow numbers with, at which point my ex’s Dad gave me a really funny look like I had said something really bad and when I started checking a guy out he would notice and suddenly speak to me to draw my focus away from any guy I was looking at. He was doing it again tonight. I was checking this guy out and he suddenly blurted a load of stuff out. I feel there is something funny going on. I considered the fact that he might fancy me but I am glad to say he categorically doesn’t so I am really not sure what is going on. I don’t know if I am reading things that are not there or not. Any ideas what is going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I don't know what is going on with his parents but ...
Go to the site below & get the e-book - Get Your Power Back After He Breaks Up. It will tell you what is going on in your ex's mind when he says he wants to be friends. It's a selfish move on his part and this book will get you clear on what is really going on.
You'll end up with a lot more self respect if you don't fall for his lies at this point.
Good Luck.
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