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writes:Why and how can a bad experience with one guy change someone to change how she looks and thinks about certain things, have trust issues and be more guarded but confident?I know it sounds silly, but i'm just interested how one guy can have this affect on someone. And will she continue to be like this forever or will she finally change back to her normal self and be able to trust and believe in a positive outcome in the future? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 May 2011):
 It can up to a point, specially if she likes to live in the past.
Some people remember only the sunshine and rainbows from past relationship, others only the bad.
If you have ever been treated like crap it stick with you for a very long time.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 The one guy can only have such an affect on her if she's emotionally unbalanced. So it's not about what sort of guy you need to create that scenario, it's about what sort of girl you're dealing with.
If they lack confidence in themselves, or struggle by other means, for example have a mental problem, or are not fully developed emotionally/mentally etc, then the impact can be great. Such as a horrible experience as a child, as children are not mentally capable of dealing with it. Or something traumatic as a teenager. Similar when a woman isn't mature, or takes responsibility, or knows how to be an adult, she will also be greatly impacted by others and doesn't have the resources to get herself out of it.
A strong confident woman will have had to be torn down little by little over many years for her to get this affected by a man, or someone else. The less emotionally stable a person is, the easier it is to tip them over the edge.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (20 May 2011):
 Hi
If someone has a bad relationship male or female, they are bound to be guarded with their next possible relationship, its only natural. Being hurt by someone can make you start to lack confidence, and doubt yourself. But when you are ready to be with the next person, you will learn to trust again, and you must try to because not all men/women are the same. Their are a lot of genuine, kind and loving men/women out their. Never give up on love, its what makes the world go around :)
I hope this has helped :) x
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