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female
age
41-50,
*ot_chocolate
writes:Hey,I work as a resident (doctor) in a hospital. Last summer I fell in love with one of the intern technicians (very young, 20, when I was 26). We got along very well and talked a lot at work, maybe too much. He asked me out, came over to my place once and we kissed (after I asked him what he was waiting for..).This happened to be on the last day of his internship, after which I didnt see him anymore. He had said he'd text the same day, but only texted the next and followed up with an email afterwards which I didnt reply to.After that we stayed in casual contact every month or so with him initiating contact every time. During that time I was casually told by my boss that he had heard some rumors about me and that it would be wise not to choose 'lust'. (very awkward conversation as you can imagine. Btw, i had only talked to him at work).After a 6 month no-see period, he came back to work as a technician in training. I tried to ignore him at first but we ended up texting and messaging almost every night. At work I only say hi to him and once supervised him. After that one time that i supervised him, his superiors told him relationships between doctors and technicians are strictly forbidden. In previous cases, one or both people have been forced to quit their job. Obviously, this job is important for both of us.He has told me he really likes me, that his mother would like me, that we get along so well. He also said it was a shame we hadn't had a second date, and that his lack of follow up on the first date might be to blame.But he has said he doesn't want to come over again, as not to cause trouble at work. At one point he said: Do you really want to date a 21 year old who hasnt achieved a thing, when you have already achieved so much by now?However, the contact we have over chat/text implies taht he does have some feelings for me. I really want to at least talk to him in private again (face to face), which we havent been able to do since the time we hooked up.Do you think he is interested? How can I ask him over again without seeming too pushy? And would you not go for this based on our hospital's policy?Thanks for the input. I can't ask any of my colleagues about this and I'm kind of head over heels for this guy.
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reader, hot_chocolate +, writes (24 April 2010):
hot_chocolate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionClearly I do need some help to figure things out :). Please forget about my profession that was only to provide you guys with the setting!
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