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writes:I'm a 35 year old married lady though not happily and on my way out of a marriage. I just got chatting with a collegue and as part of a conversation i said 'i dont thing my husband loves me' and he said 'He'd be crazy not to' Do you think he has feelings for me? We chat a bit throught he day over chat systems, though we work at different locations and havent even met in about 6-8 months. Reply to this Question
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (7 August 2012):
 yes he do cause he like qualities in you all men want and respect apparently from the outside the qualities he sees he interested he wants
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks folks - very helpful was just checking since I kept getting the feeling in his comments. In fact actually I don't share my problems with him - he knows there are issues and I don't tell him what. He keeps asking saying he shares his problems with me and I should do the same but I dont. He only knows tip of the iceberg. And the advice re my marriage is a very valid one but just that that chapter is over and my decisions made for everyone's benefit.You are right though that he's a distraction - I don't have feelings for him and I'll not lead him on.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (29 July 2012):
 Ah, just saw your follow up. Well there's your answer. He wants something to happen with you obviously. You are a desirable woman to him. However, you are still a married lady, who is unhappy in her marriage. I know it may be tempting to continue talking to this collegue, but it would be playing with fire. I feel the most important thing for you to do now is to really think about your marriage. What are the problems? Can they be fixed? Can you talk to your hubby about your unhappiness. Is it truely the problems in your marriage making you unhappy, or something else like boredom with your general way of life? If you change your way of life, would you feel happier? You need to sort out your disatisfaction with your current relationship first now. The fact is, things aren't how you want them to be. Work out what needs to change and change it. Whether that means leaving your husband, or working to improve your relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (29 July 2012):
He could just be trying to give you an emotional boost as he cares about you since you've been sharing your problems with him. Or maybe he could see your good qualities and beauty and is being honest when he says your hub would be crazy not to love you. This doesn't necessarily mean that he's holding a flame for you. It could do, but this one comment doesn't guarantee this. All of us are capable of seeing other people's good qualities and "loveability". He was probably just reassuring you of yours as he probably felt for you, after hearing about your marriage difficulties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): Despite the previous comment, I'd say that there is a very good possibility that this comment implies that he has feelings for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I don't have feelings for him but yes going through a rough loveless patch it feels reassuring in some way to still be desired. he asked me if I liked chatting with him to which I answered that it brings a smile to my face and he immediately asked me if we could go on date with him and I said I'm not ready for any such thing yet - I also suggested I'm not even in the same city so why can't he date someone nearer and he said they won't be you. He then sent me a message saying my Facebook picture was very pretty as opposed to posting a comment as other 'friends' normally do.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (29 July 2012):
 It's honestly impossible to tell with such limited information as that.
Just going by that, I'd say...no, he doesn't have feelings for you. I think he just likes you as a friend as is trying to compliment you in a friendly way. I personally would say this to any one of my friends, as a method of reassurance, not as a way to "hit on" them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012):
I wouldn't read into that comment. He's being supportive of you, his friend. That's all. That you are asking this question makes me wonder if you have feelings for him, though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): Its hard to say, he could just be being nice, I mean if someone says 'I don't think my husband loves me' what are you meant to say? Though it's possible he could like you, I would try to get to know him better and see if there are any more signs
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