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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:ok, i've posted on here about this situation before- long story short: i've been talking to this girl every day for 2 months now and we have been out numerous times just the 2 of us but me being me never knew if it was a date or not even though seemingly the situation would normally be considered so. i'm just too shy to ask, make a move or even flirt for fear of embarrassing her and losing her friendship which i genuinely value. but i can't lie to myself- i am really liking this girl. Liking as in never felt this way about someone before to the point of thinking of her 24/7. She is going away for 2 weeks tomorrow and the advice i was given from here before was to say something before she went so we went for a meal last night and i prepared myself for it at the end of the night...the meal went very well, laughed chatted etc. brilliant! then the end of the night came (don't laugh but we had to get our rents to pick us up i'm mid 20's :s-we thought it was funny though so didn't mind) point being, i didn't really have the one on one time i wanted so i quickly said to her "just wanted to say, i really enjoy spending time with you and i'm gonna miss you over the next couple of weeks". Then when dropped her off, just a quick peck on the cheek. Good move? my friends say i should really have made a move by now and that i'm blowing my chances. Do you think the fact we've been out so many times and I haven't made a proper move has ruined things and she just thinks we're friends? or is it exceptable to be moving this slow? she did text me very soon after saying the meal was lovely and so was the company...i really like spending time with her and am so afraid of scaring her off. I've never been in this situation before so am pretty bad with all this! You think these next 2 weeks will put her off me? any advice is very welcome. Sorry this is so long! thank you for your time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): Shes probably thinking the same think of why you haven't made a move. Just start with subtle things like holding hands whilst sitting dont. Compliment her as long as you miss her.
Make sure you are comfortable with whatever you are doing.
Or you could just be real and ask whats going in between us.
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