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*endy2012
writes:I have a 10 year old daughter with my ex. My ex has not been seeing the child nor supporting her financially. I took him to court for child maintenance, and he was ordered. He only paid few times and has completely stopped. I work and can somehow manage to care for the child alone. I however feel very bitter of his lack of support. All family members tell me to just forget him and bring up the child alone. He is married and works. Am married too. My husband does not contribute to my kids bills too. I have an option to get bailiffs to get him to comply, or ask court to be deducting directly from his pay. Everyone I ask seems to suggest this would sour the relationship with me and his child, and its better I just leave him for the sake of peace. Am bitter about it though, especially that he has a lot of brothers he has been helping financially, but his child is not on his list of priorities. Do you think parents who do not want to take responsibility for their children should be let scot free for the sake of peace?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): Get the court to deduct from his pay. This is about justice. If he refuses I would talk to a lawyer about possibly taking him off the birth certificate or taking away any parental rights he may have to your child. Fair 's fair. If he refuses the responsibility of being her father then he should legally be erased as her legal father.
Perpetuating a crime in the interest of keeping the peace is morally wrong in my opinion.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 May 2013):
 Go back to court and get his child support directly deducted from his pay.
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