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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Its been 2yrs that i have a relationship with a man who lived for 7yrs with her wife and 3 kids..he is married with the girl when he was 19yrs. due to his immature he was only afraid to skip away on his responsibility..and the years goes by with them day by day he feels that he would never be happy with this girl..because of being man he make 3 siblings to her..and still he is tryng to be a good father on his children but not on her wife..until we met our path on falling inlove..he end his relationship with his wife and he take care of their kids..he is happy to have me in his life and i knew its true coz he changed a lot for me..he quit smoking,alcoholic drinks,friends..until now myparents is not accepting our relationship..he was tryng to get their marriage contract but their names doesent apper thats why they dont have the certificate..what should i do now??what do you think the best thing we can do to accept us??do you think that our relatuionship is not to be cursed??i need some1 hu will give me an advice with this problem..hope to hear it from you..thanks..
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reader, Who  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Well, I am not sure I understand all of the question, but since no one else has tried to answer in 2 days, I will try.
“Do you think our relationship is meant to be cursed?”
No.
“he end his relationship with his wife and he take care of their kids “
As long as he has really ended his relationship with his wife this should not be a problem for you.
“he was tryng to get their marriage contract but their names doesent apper thats why they dont have the certificate”
I do not understand.
Are you saying he does not have a marriage certificate for his first marriage? I don’t think this will be a problem.
Are you saying he has not legally ended his marriage to his wife? Or he does not have the papers that show he has ended the marriage? Or the marriage was not annulled by the Church? If so any of these could be a problem. I don’t know how the Law works in the Philippines, or how the Church works, but I think you should find out. You may want to ask the office in you town that issues marriage and divorce certificate how it works. Or if you know someone who ended their marriage ask them.
“..until now myparents is not accepting our relationship … what do you think the best thing we can do to accept us??“
Do you need anything from your parents right now? Do they give you money you need or a place to live? Is the acceptance of you parents import in you culture, society or religion? If you and this man want a relationship without you parents acceptance, and this is possible, I think you should have the relationship you want. You parents chose to be with each other. You should chose who you want to be with. Maybe after some time you parents will accept you and your man. Maybe not.
If you need your parent’s acceptance in order to live with your man you have a big problem. I am sorry I do not have any advice if this is your problem. All I can do is tell you about a friend of my, who move with his parents from another county to live in the United States. He met a girl and they wanted to get married. His parents did not accept the girl. In his culture, he could not marry without his parent’s acceptance. He was very unhappy for many years. But he finally found another girl to marry that his parent accepted, and they are very happy now with a family of 2 kids. I don’t know if this will happen for you or not.
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