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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me about 10 days ago, because our relationship just faded and we started arguing and becoming short with each other. The spark was long gone by the end. We tried to get through it for a month, but she said it felt very pressured and in the end, she just didn't want it anymore, the hassle, the pressure. She said she just wanted to be on her own and concentrate on herself for a while. Although we had alot of fun and laughter in the month we tried, seemed like good friends a lot of the time...So I accepted it, said my piece about I hoped we could've got through it and been good again. She said she didn't think we could, as we'd had too many bad patches to be good again. Although we never cheated on each other, it was just being awkward etc with each other and frustrated with each other, short tempered and that, mainly on my part. After a week of no contact, she messaged me, just general chat about stuff. I asked her if she thinks she made the right choice, to which she answered "at the moment, yeah. why, dont you?". I said that it wasn't my decision and that I thought we could be okay, to which she said she didn't feel we could of.I then said it wasn't easy dealing with all this, and still have general chats with her is only going to make it harder. She took that pretty bad and ended the conversation, I explained that I didn't mean it in a horrible way, just that I was missing her. She seems to be telling people that she's good, and that it was for the best. Doesn't seem to be bothered that much, she never was very open with her emotions, I felt she even lied to herself about them at times, pretending she was fine.So heres the question, I want to ask her to go out for a meal, or a drink, or something. Do you think that's wise or should I just move on and forget it? Is there any chance for us after the spark dying for so long?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Ive just answered what I feel to be the same question
Should I give my ex more time to "miss" me?
The posts are very much the same if not the same
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